rocketman

Keep your head up, spirits up, it could be nothing, or bronchitis or..could be something worse, but don't worry about it until there is something to really worry about. Easy to say, I know, but I have been where your at several times, most times, it wasnt something bad. I'm glad your wife is going, she wants to be involved I'm sure. Good luck in your scan, think happy thoughts, and I wish you the BEST!!

I'm glad your wife is going with also---it hasn't been easy for me either sharing the information with my wife about any of my treatments especially the prognosis----- plus I have always put on the strong act in any thing we encountered so its hard to show her how scared I am--but were in this together

I'm glad to see you are going to the doctor sooner and that your wife is going with you. Please don't cut her out of your treatment now. This is affecting her as much as you. Cancer sucks and it affects everyone around you. You have to keep her in the loop so she knows if something is different going on and can help get you to the doctor if necessary.

This part is also for Julius: So many time I've read comments and responses about how cancer fighters "put on a strong face" and act like they aren't scared. PLEASE STOP IT! Don't you understand that we are here to help and are just as scared as you are. Telling someone you love that you aren't scared and that everything will be okay just makes it that much harder when something really bad does happen. It is your fight and your right to fall apart and scream and cry, but it's ours too...in a different way. Women are a lot stronger than we are given credit for. By nature, we are caregivers and nurturers. Please tell your partners everything and let them be a part of all of it. It really helps us cope too. Had I not been a primary part of my fathers care I would have gone completely insane with worry and fear.

I wish you all the best in your journey and will pray for the best outcome for you all.

I would call ASAP to let them know and if your wife has been with you all the way, I don't suggest cutting her off now. Maybe call, make appointment, then tell her if you think that to be best.
Hopefully it's nothing serious...
-phil

HI:
If things take a change I usually call my oncologist and in to see her either that day or the next don't wait around doesn't do good for the body or the mind. I choose to go to my Dr appts alone unless I know something real important needs to be discussed where I need another brain. This is a family effort but in the end what I do is up to me. I won't lie to my family but I like to know first. Selfish maybe but to me it is still control!
Have a happy tomorrow. Go to the Drs.
Susie

I would definitely get an appointment with your oncologist as soon as possible. That was how they discovered my cancer had came back and metastasized this time. I was supposed to have a regular checkup in mid-January, but I'd started experiencing worsening symptoms before than and just knew something was wrong, so I came in earlier to see what was going on.

I know it's hard to do this when you have loved ones you want to protect; I'm the exact same way because I know it's putting so much stress on them. But when it comes down to it you have to put yourself first at times like these. You don't want things to get worse than they already are.

Hi rocketman,

I see that you are still waiting for some feedback on this. We'll see if we can find someone with experience to weigh in.

Thanks.