65 One Liner Tips for Newly Diagnosed

by GregP_WN

When you are first diagnosed with cancer and you tell a few people about it the advice will start rolling in. Some of it will be good advice, but a lot of it you will need to ignore. The best place to get information about cancer issues is from someone who has been through it. WhatNext is the internet's leading source of first-hand cancer experiences, and one of the best places to get information from someone who has been there, and "gets it". 

65 Tips For The Newly Diagnosed

We asked the WhatNext Community for their best "one-liner" pieces of advice and we got a ton of them. Read through these, and if you have another to add, please leave your advice in the comments below. 

Carool
If at all possible, get treatment at one of the great cancer-treatment hospitals available.

Kris103
Be careful about Googling - there is a lot of bad information out on the internet.

Never Google

Russ
My one-liner+...Never give up hope...it is the last candle fluttering in the darkness while all the others have gone out.

Ejourneys                                                                                                                                             Cherish yourself and cut yourself slack -- fighting cancer is your main job now.

BoiseB
Question everything but most of all question your Dr.s

bevaschia
Take any support when offered by friends and family. You're going to need it.

CAS1
Set up a Google search for your type of cancer and use different ways to title each item..this will give you new and published information on your type of cancer..and never ever take medical advice from people on blogs.

Lynne-I-Am
Seek out a specialist who treats your specific type of cancer, and consider getting a second opinion before treatments start.

TXHills
Bring a friend or digital recorder to each appointment. It is too much information to absorb and remember correctly.

Always get a 2nd opinion so that you can have even more information than you got with the first.

LiveWithCancer
Don't believe most of what you read on the Internet

Traceypap
Trust your instincts and don't be intimidated by the doctors.

Gin
Remember that every cancer journey is different.

beachbum5817
Listen to your inner voice. You know your body better than anyone.

cllinda
Don't be afraid to ask for help.

Rolltidelynne
Don't get mad at your body, your energy will come back.
and
There is a light at the end of the tunnel, just trust you will see it ;)

Judytjab
You're stronger than you think, you can do this!

What Doesnt Kill You Makes You Stronger

dstewart52
Place an open bible under your pillow at night, it will rest your mind and calm you. Turn all of your worries over to God, talk to God.

Veronique
You are stronger than you ever thought possible.get a second opinion at a reputable cancer center especially for your type. Somehow someway even on the darkest days keep hope alive.

laradactyl
Use your energy to handle what is now, waste none of it on worry about what might be coming up next.

tullerie
I think it is important to get more than one opinion on treatment. Also, understand the course of action that they will take including anti-nausea drugs, white blood cell boosters, creme for radiation, etc. Not all doctors treat the same type of cancer the same, and not all have your comfort as a priority.

Judytjab
This too shall pass.

Mika
Keep away from negative people

Negative People

Jesse0218
If there's something you really, really want to do and you have the energy, go for it. It will pick you up unbelievably and lift your spirits to the sky. For me, it was getting on a horse in the middle of radiation after not being on for over 3 years. The whole world turned around in such a positive way at that point.

BuckeyeShelby
One of the first suggestions I've made to 2 different co-workers was to check out WhatNext.com.

Click To Join Us At What Next

diaturtles
This is the time you have to become your own advocate, if you question your doctors..seek a second opinion, ask questions if you don't understand what they're telling you, bring a friend/family member to appointments so they can write stuff down, you're going to get overwhelmed by everything. It's your body and you and only you know what doesn't feel right, tell them ( doctors) and keep repeating it if you have to until someone listens.

Goingstrong
If you believe in God, pray for strength, courage, and peace.

dan7264

Knowledge is power. Power over fear. Find out as much about your cancer as you can and there will be less to fear.

gonewest
Love yourself and be compassionate towards yourself like never before.

Maddy61
Once you've found the right doctor and decided on your course of treatment take your meds, especially those for nausea and pain. If you are stronger and not in pain your fight will be a little easier. Prayers.

Cindy
Pray and take one day at a time.

swfl51
Have courage and fight for your life, one hour at a time.

jene1835 

Get a calendar and write all your medical stuff in it - - radiation and chemo dates, doctor appointments, surgeries. One calendar for every year. Keep everything pertaining to your newly diagnosed cancer in this calendar, even your scripts for medication and tests (CT scan, MRIs, Bone Density, MUGA, etc.
I have 6 since the beginning of January 2009. I refer back to them - - they might be better record keepers than your physician or oncologist.

Bug
One thing at a time. Keep going. You are stronger than you think. You can do this.

Danfan714

Get all of the opinions you can, then make an informed choice.

Carool
1. If possible, get treated at a major cancer research hospital or a satellite of one.

2. Have hope. Remember that there are millions of cancer survivors.

LiveWithCancer
3. Don't believe statistics. Live today.

Ilenealizah                                                                                                                                      Advocate for yourself through education. 

For 24/7 support, join peer online groups.
Trust your gut; you live in your body and you know it best.
You must feel good communicating with your oncologist, if not change doctors.

SandiA
There is always hope!

Hope Changes Everything

Be good to yourself and schedule some fun things between doctors appointments. Even if it’s spending a quiet evening at home with good supportive people.

po18guy
1. Do not panic.
2. Do not give up.

When I address cancer patients, I offer the following analogy: Picture yourself on a bridge over a river that winds its way to the sea. It is the most beautiful sunset that you have ever seen. The gorgeous reds, oranges, and purples are reflected even in the river. No camera can capture the beauty. But, as you take it all in, you lose your balance and fall over the railing into the river! A complete shock and disorientation! You can't breathe and you can barely see. You are suddenly upside down, sinking in the river as it flows toward the ocean. Panic threatens!

Question: Do you think to yourself, "Well, I guess this is it" and just sink to the bottom?

NO!

We are wired for survival. You struggle to get your bearings, start paddling your way to the surface and give thanks for that first gasp of life-giving air! Having done that, your next step is to get to the shore, where you have time to catch your breath and give thanks that your life has been spared. You are a soaked to the skin, nervous, shaking and dirty, but thankful to be alive.

This is what the diagnosis can seem like. It is overwhelming and confusing. Yet, thinking about it, we struggle to the surface and then to the shore because we love and are loved. We are not ready to abandon that love. The same with a cancer diagnosis. After the initial shock, it will all begin to make sense.

Life is still worth living - because of love.

cllinda

Always call the doctor's office if you have had side effects, even on the weekend.

Nana52
Just remember, you have cancer but cancer does not have you! Be positive as much as possible. Get out and enjoy life. Don't stress over little things. Keep the negativity out of your life. This is a time when YOU are Number 1. And most of all, have fun, laugh, and joke. Attitude is everything.

Cancer Cannot Take Away

Skyemberr
If you are told you are stage 3 or 4 you are not necessarily going to fall over dead as the situation would lead you to believe. Many people live a very long time at stage 4.

Also, attitude is everything. You have to stay as positive as you can to give yourself the mental strength to get through treatment. Positivity isn't always easy, but it has saved my life.

merpreb
Have someone with you to take notes when you go to the doctor's or hospital.
The statistics that you read about are not predictors of how you will do
Don't listen to other's stories- yours is unique.
If you aren't happy with your healthcare people then change. It's your health so don't worry about other's feelings.
If you are able to get outside every day and walk

Skyemberr
Last thing: get a good support network around you. My mom has cancer and lives very remotely. She has meals on wheels in every day, a housekeeper twice a month, and a free ride service that takes her you all of her appointments.

Plus she has me and the rest of her family calling and checking and asking if she needs things. A good support system helps a lot!!!!

myb
Ask your friends or family for a reference for doctors & hospitals in your cancer area. Find a doctor(s) that you can trust or as I put it back then, gave me a warm fuzzy. Your oncologist will be your doctor for your 5 years of monitoring, so really need trust here. Never accept nausea, as there are more meds than originally prescribed to you to manage it. My oncologist tweaked my chemo cocktail for 6 sessions to help me better manage symptoms. Write everything down when you are going through it and review with your oncologist between visits. I wrote what meds I took, how I felt, side effects, bowel movements, sleep, and exercise.

LiveWithCancer
@merpreb is so right! Exercise is crucial to fighting fatigue. It seems completely counter-intuitive, but the more you do, the more energy you will have.

JustForToday
This is big, real and can easily overwhelm a person. If that starts to happen: step back and think about just today and tomorrow. Take it one day at a time.

Take It One Day At A Time

Related Article: Taking It One Day at a Time When Dealing With Cancer

JaneA
Never underestimate the power of a second opinion. It could save your life.

BuckeyeShelby
Make sure you click with your doctor.
Be nice to the oncology nurses -- it'll be easier for them to be nice to YOU.
Cancer is not necessarily a death sentence -- there was only a 15% chance I'd be here typing these words, yet here I am...

BoiseB
1) Order this Guidebook and Journal
https://www.livestrong.org/what-we-do/program/livestrong-guidebook
It is well worth the price
2) Now is the time to adopt a healthy lifestyle my YMCA has several programs for cancer patients including one for patients during treatment. It also has some programs on nutrition. Get a referral to a dietician. Eating healthy is crucial to recovery.
3) Stay social go to as many activities as you can Book Clubs, Political Action Groups, Card Playing Clubs, Quilting, Bird Watching, you get the drift.
4) I second Jane A
I am an 8-year survivor of stage IV cancer odds 4 in 100. After I got an aggressive stage II uterine cancer 5 years ago the Dr. said that there was a 1 in 100 chance that I would be cancer free today. Adopt a healthy lifestyle.

LisaR
Stay away from these rainbows and unicorns type of promises to cure your cancer by reading Mr. I Cured My Cancer By Eating Beets' book. If those crackpot people had a plan that would work and has been proven to work through research, then the doctors would be using it. And before the conspiracy theorists start quacking, save it. There is NO CURE for cancer that's being held by the government.

The things I read and then see people that believe this crap just makes my blood boil.

kalindria
Remember to engage your BS detector. As LisaR says above, there is no miracle cure held in secrecy by the government.

Ask lots of questions of your doctors and medical team. Follow directions.

Never give up!

There's no shame in asking for help; asking for drugs (painkillers, sleep assistance, anti-depressants, etc.), company, help with everyday tasks, rides, and so much more. ASK.

We're here for you. This community is always supportive, informative and willing to direct you to your physician if we think you need immediate care or care beyond what you can get at home.

Ignore the statistics on the Internet, most of them are old and new treatments/protocols are developed every day.

If you like some of these tips and want to see more from that person, just click on their highlighted username and you will be taken directly to their homepage on WhatNext. You can then browse their cancer journey, or ask a question, or simply tell them thanks for their tip!

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