flyglo's Journey with Skin Cancer - Melanoma

Patient: Skin Cancer - Melanoma

Patient Info: Newly diagnosed (has not begun treatment), Diagnosed: over 6 years ago, Male, Age: 40

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    • flyglo
    • Experience with Skin Cancer - Melanoma
    almost 6 years ago
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    Diagnosed

    Oh No

    I found out I had cancer about 6 months ago. The doctor told me I must not wait because no longer I wait the harder it will be to treat it. I am afraid of what may happen during treatment. First I have problems with my heart so I think that means I can't have surgery. Plus I seen what chemo can do to people. But more importantly I don't want to leave my family cause they really need me now. I don't care about my future has long as I can get them on track I will be happy. my question is are there any treatments that won't make me really sick or have to stay in a hospital. I also need help finding someone to talk me through the next steps. When I first heard the word cancer it change my life. Suddenly it seem like I was running out of time. I keep worring about my family to the point I am pushing them away. They don't understand that I don't have the time to wait. I told my wife about the cancer and she cried at first which made me feel good that she cares. But now she isn't supportive and is cheating on me. I wish I didn't tell her because then she would know about me and it wouldn't seem so bad. If your reading this an you to have cancer and are with a girl you are unsure of don't say anything because it will just make it worst. I hope someone can help me out cause I cry must of the time. I just can't stop thinking about the dying. I worry about them needing me but I am not here. I don't know if this is the stuff I should be writing here but I don't care about living or doing treatment for myself. I also would like to know how to handle including or not including my wife in the future. Well to be honest I really don't think I can count on her so I need someone to speak with cause I am battling this alone.

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    • flyglo
    • Experience with Skin Cancer - Melanoma
    almost 6 years ago
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    Decision Point

    I am ready to go handle this I understand that waiting for things to get in order was a waste of time. I don't know how my treatment will go but I know I can't wait any longer. I notice a lot of people loss their hair I hope I don't cause my cancer is on my head so no hair means everyone will see it. I am moving soon so that I can get away from my no support wife and be closer to people that care. I have decided to tell my mom cause I really need someone to help me through treatment and these huge changes in my life.

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    • flyglo
    • Experience with Skin Cancer - Melanoma
    almost 6 years ago
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    Procedure or Surgery

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    • flyglo
    • Experience with Skin Cancer - Melanoma
    almost 6 years ago
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    • flyglo
    • Experience with Skin Cancer - Melanoma
    almost 6 years ago
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    Lost loved one

    Loss

    My grand mother past away from cancer. She was my best friend who I depended on greatly. So was ready to die and prepare us for that day. I am not the type of person who fears death. I believe its a good thing that frees us from the limits of are human body. Even so I still miss her and wish I spend more time with her before she left. Both of my wife's parents pasted away from cancer and I believe her grand parents as well. I am so worried that my kids may one get cancers because it runs on both sides. My sister had cancer but caught it early so she fine. I can't say that same for myself.

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