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Decision Point Associated with Colorectal (Colon) Cancer. Posted on March 16, 2012 View this journey (4 Experiences)

On March 15, Mark was told my doctors that he had three options: to do nothing, to have his remaining colon cut out, or to continue with chemotherapy in hopes something would change. That night Mark told me he thought we should stop seeing each other in a romantic way, and try to just be friends. He said it would make it easier on me, and him, in the long run and that he thought he needed to do this alone. He askedme not to wait for him, because he wasn't sure he'd choose an option where he had a future. I couldn't do anything but nod, as tears poured down my cheeks. Seeing the man you love break down is one of the hardest things I think I've ever witnessed. And I can only hope that he will put his stubbornness aside and deal with having a colostomy bag if it means saving his life. If anyone has any advice on what I should do, I'd love to hear it. I don't even care if we end up together in the end, I just want him to be healthy nd happy.

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    kleslied

    Cancer is tough on your side, now that I was diagnosed with breast cancer I know both sides of things which in no way makes me an expert but I do understand things I didn't before. In his heart he probably believes he is sparing you more pain by keeping you at a distance, while you probably feel like you are losing precious moments and memories you could have. There are no right answers for this, I spent every moment I could caring for my mother who died of cancer in 1989, it took over my life and consumed me which was her fear. Now I see what she was telling me because I worry about people in my life doing what I did or it having the same effect as I experienced. No matter what, ultimately it is their decision to make and I wouldn't stop them and that is not a selfish side of wanting to be cared for but from one that knows every memory you can make with someone you love you will carry with you forever.

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