Shocked to find out it was prostate cancer that had spread to his into his lungs. - Kelly

Oh No Associated with Prostate Cancer. Posted on February 28, 2012 View this journey (1 Experience)

I want to give him the best support that I can, and I don't know how to do this. I have made lists, and his first treatment is this coming Thursday. His oncologist wants to start with hormone blocking. We are both strong believers in our faith. However this diagnoisis of cancer is more than either of us are educated/equipped to handle. If anyone out there can send some advise on this, i sincerely welcome your wisdom. God bless and thank you.

  • Afterglow's Avatar

    I don't think anyone is ever ready for a diagnosis of cancer. It has to be one of the most difficult times of a person's life, whether the diagnosis is for you or a loved one. It's wonderful that you are concerned about how to support your loved one. The most important thing is just to be there for him. If he needs to cry or scream, that's ok. If he needs held do it; if he needs space, let him have it; if he needs to talk, let him. We all react differently and our needs can change from moment to moment. Encourage him to get support from others as well, such as your minister and congregation members.

    If at all possible and agreeable with him, also attend as many doctor's appointments with him as you can. It will not only provide support but help to make sure that as much information is taken in as possible since much will be covered and any one person does not always hear everything or think of the questions to ask.

    Just as important as your support for him is to take care of yourself. It is easy for a caregiver to get 'burned out.' Make sure you have someone to talk to, also, and take time away from the situation when possible, even if it's just having your hair done or going to a movie with a girl friend.

    over 8 years ago
  • MichaelV's Avatar

    Before you go ahead with all the conventional stuff, get a copy of "Knockout" by Susan Sommers. It will give you a whole different perspective on options for handling cancer. I must say, I was very skeptical when I heard about the book. I was educated as a physicist and one of my favorite courses was Logic which I always got A's. I have to say what I read (and am rereading it now) changed my outlook on what I am going to subject myself to. YOU CAN"T BE TOO INFORMED. Also, there are many doctors who take it as a personal affront if you question their map for you proposed treatment. If this happens to you, take a big step back and seek a second opinion.

    over 8 years ago

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