Lost loved one - kleslied

Loss Associated with Breast Cancer. Posted on June 17, 2014 View this journey (8 Experiences)

I lost my sister this past week to her fight with cancer. Hers started as cervical cancer, but recovered then it returned in her stomach, recovered then returned. This time surgery was not an option but she started and aggressive round of chemo but 2 day later the cancer had spread to her brain without warning and she was gone. She was planning to come home that day. Instead of my father flying out to California to help her, I also flew out the next day to bring her home and pack up her things. Its been such a mess, none of us expect to go me least of all, but people do your family a favor make a will or power of attorney. Put your cars in someones name TOD and do the same with your bank accounts, otherwise your family will be so busy there will be no time to mourn you. We have had everything on hold because our hands were tied on doing anything until we received the death certificates. So now here over a week later, now we can plan a funeral. It's been psychically and emotionally draining and has taken a toll on my own recovery. I pray no one has to go through what we have and can just mourn and put our loved ones to rest.

10 Comments
  • SueRae1's Avatar
    SueRae1

    Hugs, I am so sorry to hear about your sister. May the memory of the love and good times you shared help you heal and move forward.

    over 7 years ago
  • marycamp's Avatar
    marycamp

    So sorry may god bless you & your family!!! remember all the good memories!

    over 7 years ago
  • Noureen's Avatar
    Noureen

    So sorry to hear about your sister. May he soul rest in peace.

    over 7 years ago
  • GregP_WN's Avatar
    GregP_WN

    sorry for your loss of your sister, I wish healing peace for you with time.

    over 7 years ago
  • Shanny's Avatar
    Shanny

    Sorry for your lost and may God give you and your family strength through this trying time.

    over 7 years ago
  • Ejourneys' Avatar
    Ejourneys

    *Hugs* I am so sorry. Wishing comfort to you and your family.

    over 7 years ago
  • Gabba's Avatar
    Gabba

    Very sorry for your loss. What wonderful advice you have given us today, sorry you had so much to deal with...blessings to all of you.

    over 7 years ago
  • dxdiva2's Avatar
    dxdiva2

    I am so sorry to hear about your sister and the toll her passing has taken on you and your family. Too many of us put off doing things like a will or power of attorney etc until its too late. My daughter in law says her mother remembers what a burden it was to deal with all of the many things her mom had when she passed. So now she goes through her stuff once a year just to make sure her daughter will not be left with a house full of things to decide what to do with.

    You're right that it should be a time to mourn her death and celebrate her life, I hope it gets easier for you. God bless!

    over 7 years ago
  • Raider11's Avatar
    Raider11

    Wow so very sorry about your sister. Thanks for the advice.

    over 7 years ago
  • Anamaria's Avatar
    Anamaria

    I know what you are going through. My mother put someone as her executor and it has been XXX. She wanted to change it but was too sick to make the change. I can not stress how important it is to make sure everything is in order and you have the right person in charge of everything. The only thing that makes this process some what possible it that this person and I have equal power of attorney. It is almost a year since my mother lost her fight with cancer and her estate is still not settled. Now I have cancer and it is not a good situation to be in. Please please have every thing updated and in order. With chemo and the side effects you never know what will happen from one day to the next. I pray things work out for you and that God give you the strength and patience to get through this difficult time. Remember to be kind to your self.

    over 7 years ago

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