Experiences with Fertility

Infertility is defined as not being able to start or maintain a pregnancy. Men are infertile if the testicles do not make sperm or the pathways that carry sperm are blocked or cut off. Women are infertile if the ovaries do not make mature eggs, eggs cannot be fertilized, or a fertilized egg cannot implant and grow in the uterus. If you have experienced the loss of fertility, it does not matter what it means or why it happens; all that matters is that you are experiencing a great amount of grief. Not all people want to have children, but almost all people desire the option. There is a feeling of grief, anger, and incompetence when you lose the ability to have children. It may feel like you have been robbed of your manhood or womanhood.

Two main considerations when you lose fertility are firstly, the state of your mental health after experiencing such a loss. The emotions you go through when you experience this loss can be very dramatic; it may help to see a professional counselor or to join a support group with people who can truly understand what you are going through. Often times, sharing these unique experiences bring camaraderie and a new sense of understanding to individuals that feel isolated. Secondly, is considering adoption if and when you are ready. If you and your significant other are not interested in a life with children, you can pursue other fulfilling things in life such as travel, volunteering, or successful careers. However, adoption, while it is different from having your own children, will always be a fulfilling option.

  1. almost 2 years ago
    buddaahman's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    am still unable to get an erection and when I reach an XXX they call it a dry XXX

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  2. almost 2 years ago
    Nibblersmom's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    I have been married for ten years and with my husband for 15. For a long time I have wanted children but my husband freelances and t...

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  3. over 2 years ago
    JamieInWyoming's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    I was 42 when I had my surgery. I had never been pregnant, but just before all of this, I was starting to get my cycle a lot more re...

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    • ehefley
    • Experience with Ovarian and Fallopian ...
    over 2 years ago
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    Fertility

    Loss

    Well, having a full hysterectomy next Thursday.

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    • Milena
    • Experience with Colorectal (Colon) Cancer
    over 2 years ago
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    Fertility

    Loss

    Lost my ovaries... Now I'm in menopause... With 29 years old...

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  4. over 2 years ago
    sierraamador's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    i can't have children because of the treatment

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  5. over 2 years ago
    Mzmowse62's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    I wanted a baby girl for all kinds of reasons (selfish or not)! :(

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  6. almost 3 years ago
    trenichelle's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    I wasn't sure if I wanted to have a child, the cancer made the decision for me.

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    • catatak
    • Experience with Ovarian and Fallopian ...
    about 3 years ago
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    Fertility

    Loss

    Prior to my first surgery I had the loss and decision to make about the hysterectomy - I could not believe I would never have anothe...

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  7. over 3 years ago
    Lara_Strong's Avatar

    Fertility

    Loss

    Was very sad I could not have kids

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    • WVUGirl76
    • Experience with Nodular sclerosing
    over 3 years ago
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    Fertility

    Loss

    I was 35 when I was diagnosed. I had just had my first baby and I was elated. I was literally thrilled to be a mom. I have always wa...

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    • DiAlt
    • Experience with Cervical Cancer
    over 3 years ago
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    Fertility

    Loss

    We were considering having another baby. I am sad to have the option taken away but happy to be here for my son and husband.

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