Lost loved one - shauna0915

Loss Associated with Adenocarcinoma, Lung Cancer. Posted on December 8, 2011 View this journey (12 Experiences)

My dad passed away 3 months after diagnosis. I was the main point of contact for everyone and the main source of support for my dad and step-mom. I was the one who talked to the doctors and hospice. I was the one who interpreted to my family what the doctors were saying. I was the one who took care of all the legal stuff. I was the one who gave my dad morphine every 2 hours at the end...and I was the one who took his oxygen off and told him it was okay to go. I even checked vitals and pronounced time of death. I was the only one who ever saw all of the scans and knew exactly how bad the cancer was. I was in charge of everything. I'm having a really hard time dealing with everything right now. It seems like everyone in my family is dismissing what I am going through...basically telling me there's nothing to be upset about and to get over it. It's been 5 months since my dad passed away and I still cry all the time. I didn't cry much at first, through the diagnosis, treatment or funeral. Now I can't stop crying. I know I did everything I could do to help my dad, but I guess I'm feeling cheated because I didn't talk to him for almost 12 years and only started mending our relationship 6 years ago this Christmas Eve.

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    collinsb01

    Hi Dorothy

    First of all, I am sorry about your loss. It sounds like you were a blessing to your dad when he needed it the most. Choose to take this Christmas to "CELEBRATE" your time with him. You had around six years before going into the caregiver time. God has given you a wonderful gift of being that caregiver. What a blessing to be able to release him into the 'wonderful everafter'. Girl, you just keep the faith and know that you were where YOU needed in God's plan. Don't just 'get over it', 'celebrate it'. Have faith and be blessed.

    about 9 years ago
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    collinsb01

    Hi Shauna (sorry about the name above)

    First of all, I am sorry about your loss. It sounds like you were a blessing to your dad when he needed it the most. Choose to take this Christmas to "CELEBRATE" your time with him. You had around six years before going into the caregiver time. God has given you a wonderful gift of being that caregiver. What a blessing to be able to release him into the 'wonderful everafter'. Girl, you just keep the faith and know that you were where YOU needed in God's plan. Don't just 'get over it', 'celebrate it'. Have faith and be blessed.

    about 9 years ago

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