• BobbyZ's Avatar

    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    I enjoy reading positive quotes, they help me process what I'm going through .

    • Newby2Cancer's Avatar
      Newby2Cancer

      I have read that one before. My take on it is that we can be negative and mope around every day and feel sorry for ourselves that we have cancer and are having to go through this, or, we can find the good in every day and make the best of each day. Being positive won't help kill the cancer out but it will sure make the time we have to spend doing this a little easier to take.

      28 days ago
    • Created07's Avatar
      Created07

      Instead of "Why me?"...try "Why Not me?".

      28 days ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      I, like Created07, thought to myself, "Why not me?" No one appears to be exempt from cancer.

      I loved positive quotes and also quotes from long ago where people endured emotional and physical hardships just as we do now. I felt that connection as part of the big picture of life. My husband and I tried to take my cancer treatment one day at the time and find something good in each day.

      28 days ago
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    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    Have you been accused of using the "cancer card", or have you done it on purpose?

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      Coloman

      I've never heard it called that before, but I guess I'm guilty of doing it. But if we are talking about just not going somewhere because we don't feel like it, I'm guilty. Or even telling someone that you won't be home when they want to stop by, when you will be but just don't feel like having company. Guilty too. I don't see anything wrong with it myself.

      about 1 month ago
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      BuckeyeShelby

      Most of us have at one or another. But how often do others use things like the parent card? Or I have a new pet or a new job or an early meeting. Are these things real? Sure, some of them are. And sometimes it's just an excuse because I don't wanna do it. The same thing is true of the cancer card. Sometimes it's real and sometimes it's a bluff.

      about 1 month ago
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      lararocks

      You go girl(or Guy)! You have every right to say that, and I love that you don't care what people think of you or let them tell you what to do. That shows you are STRONG

      about 1 month ago
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    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    I have a rather dark question for you to consider

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      meyati

      I should add that when administration was pushing "Home Hospice", I told them about my so9n's condition-depressed, suicidal, goes into the mental ward at least once a year, which is much better than being in the VA mental ward over 50% of the year. He scared himself.

      My radiologist, my primary care of that time, and the chaplain interceded for me and my family that I would go to the Pres hospice, not stay at home. I asked them what would happen if my son had a breakdown and entered the VA for even a week or he committed suicide, At that time, none of the grandsons were staying with us. Seriously-- one was a guest at Florence Super Max for various federal crimes. If he would be out anytime that I needed hospice, would a civilized society want him caring for me? He scares me, he steals everything, he tries to bring friends over that aren't so nice- they all are violent.

      So I'm wondering if BobbyZ is also being pressured by his medical care takers, as I was being pressured? There can be many factors in our lives that we really don't care to disclose, we make some lame excuses to hide our embarrassment and shame..

      about 1 month ago
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      cards7up

      All of those memories will be there in the end. We might remember the passing for a time but the good and loving memories always override what happened in the end. Love does that! Nothing can change that relationship ever!!!

      about 1 month ago
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      kalindria

      I think it should be your choice.

      about 1 month ago
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    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    I was told to stop taking any vitamin C or vitamins that have vitamin C in them while on chemo.

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      That's one that I've never been told to do.

      4 months ago
    • JustForToday's Avatar
      JustForToday

      My oncologist allowed me to continue taking my multivitamin. However, she asked that I not take any extra vitamin C or other antioxidant supplements. She felt that antioxidants would hinder the chemotherapy.

      4 months ago
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      Russ

      Never heard of that or have been told otherwise. My best to all of you...Russ

      4 months ago
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    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    Has anyone had lymph nodes appear (swollen up) in your neck or under arms and then disappear?

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      po18guy

      Actually, those nodes, being integral parts of your immune system absolutely must swell/enlarge/react on a routine basis. We ingest millions if not billions of pathogens daily. Enlarged nodes that reduce to normal are an excellent sign that your immune system is healthy and functioning. If our immune systems did not react to infection - whether bacterial, fungal or viral - we would be gone in a matter of weeks. No cancer can come even close to that.

      5 months ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I have one that swelled a little and then stayed that way, but since it is under a particular size they are just watching it.

      4 months ago
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    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    Has your insurance company ever denied radation treatments?

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      GregP_WN

      I have a twist on this. My insurance won't cover dental issues, even if they were caused by my cancer treatments. Right now I have an infected wisdom tooth. It is messed up from the radiation that I had for cancer. So I've been waiting for about a month and a half for the insurance company and my doctor's office to fight it out.

      5 months ago
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      BuckeyeShelby

      Like Carm, I'm in the biz, but I work for a little TPA. One thing to keep in mind, the first person to deny your claim may not have even a college degree. It's not necessary to pay claims in my company -- suggested, but not necessary. So even if they have a degree, it could be a degree in English, like me. Before anyone comes after me, I just audit "customer service phone calls for quality and training purposes". I know enough to be dangerous, as I was deciding on whether to allow requested treatments for workers comp. And the best I can do is, I was a pre-vet/biology major the first 2 quarters of my freshman year, until I discovered...calculus!!

      5 months ago
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      BobbyZ

      Thanks to you all for your input. I just get frustrated with having to deal with all of this while trying to stay breathing! I appreciate you all!

      5 months ago
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    BobbyZ asked a questionPancreatic Cancer

    Anxiety attacks, has anyone had a series of anxiety in their sleep?

    5 answers
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      It could be you are actually dreaming, but you don't remember them. It would be unusual for your subconscious to have a field day trying to process your fear and anxiety. I hope things get better for you.

      6 months ago
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      andreacha

      I experienced panic attacks before my diagnosis. Horrendous dreams and as some say, short of breath, chest and head pounding. Fortunately for me, I was visiting my niece who is an RN for a week or so when I had my first one. She knew what it was right away. I eventually calmed down and went back to bed and I slept. When it happened again the next night she made an appointment for me with her doctor. I was initially put on Xanax 1mg 3xday. I weaned myself back to two after a few months. Now my PC writes the script for 2 x a day but knows I only take it once at bedtime. It was only a month or so ago that I missed taking my bedtime dose and I woke up and was a real mess. Couldn't believe it happened only missing one dose. Now the only time I take 3 a day would be the day every 3 months when I have my MRI's. I'm terribly claustrophobic and take 2 that morning and the additional at bedtime. They used to give me Versed during the MRI'S until they realized I had developed sleep apnea. I wouldn't wish a panic attack on anyone.

      5 months ago
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      Bengal

      I have had similar experiences. I do not sleep well to begin with but sometimes I wake with a start and feel like I am drowning. I have labeled these instances as panic attacks. Usually by relaxing my muscles one by one and controlled breathing I can retake control. Sometimes i just have to ride it out. If I take a Xanax before going to bed it usually doesn't happen but I hate to make that a habit.

      5 months ago