• A local newspaper wrote an article about me and my cancer diagnosis, treatment, etc.

    Asked by CancerChicky on Sunday, October 21, 2018

    A local newspaper wrote an article about me and my cancer diagnosis, treatment, etc.

    It was nice to shed some light on what it's like to go through a diagnosis, treatment, and all that comes with it. But there was one thing I hated about it, the title they chose was "Cancer Victim Fights Back". I hate the term "victim". To me, that sounds like I'm dead already or just barely hanging on. Am I out of line on this or does everyone think like that?

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    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      I agree!!! I hate that word, too!!!

      Will you share a link to the article with us? Congratulations and thanks for doing it!!!

      6 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Same for me, I have never liked the term victim. It makes it sound like we are in a wheelchair just about to be done in. I don't care for the whole impression it gives us.

      6 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar

      I don't care for the implication that we are victims - I would have thought that they would have allowed you to preview the article to check on the details for accuracy - that would have given you a chance to express your reluctance to be characterized as a victim.

      6 months ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar

      They indeed chose the wrong title for the newspaper article . A victim is someone who is tricked, injured, attacked,, and harmed as a result of an event ( such as an accident or illness ). So for a brief period of ttime, we were all victims, but from the time we were diagnosed and we each made choices and decisions regarding our medical care going forward, we became survivors. So article should have been titled, “ Cancer Survivor Fights Back”.

      6 months ago
    • MarciaLynn's Avatar

      I'm trying to think of a suitable word or phrase to replace "victim," can't come up with one . . . probably will as soon as I hit the send button, lol. (Chemo Brain Fog :) )

      I like "SURVIVOR" because that's what we are! Even if we are currently being treated, we are survivors because we are still alive in spite of everything the cancer may have done to us. That's what survivors do, we stay alive through all the setbacks.

      Maybe "Warrior"? We are all warriors fighting to overcome the sometimes terrifying odds we are facing.


      6 months ago
    • po18guy's Avatar

      A cancer PATIENT, but "victim" - really? Is everyone a victim of something these days? That seems to be the pop culture mindset. You are now a victim if you don't get cheese on your sandwich, or if the soda is diet instead of regular.

      No, you are a patient. Cancer was not lurking in a dark alley, waiting for you to pass by. Cancer is US! It is the enemy within. What is newsworthy is our fighting spirit as we face it down. What is newsworthy is the advances being made right now in medical science.

      If they choose to write a follow up, you will have your opportunity to set the record straight. It will probably open some eyes!

      6 months ago
    • banditwalker's Avatar

      I take the word victim to mean someone is on the receiving end of something bad that was done on purpose. You never hear of someone being a car crash victim, or food poisoning victim. But they do refer to rape victims, or murder victims.
      No, my cancer cells did not consciously target me, so I am not a victim.

      6 months ago
    • meyati's Avatar

      The media here says A child with cancer---A mother with cancer--they personalize it to make youa human and help the public to relate.

      They say- this young football player passed from cancer. He was diagnosed 4 years ago. His coach kept him on the team. His team and high school will have a memorial for him Tuesday night at 6 in the gym.

      Some families want to say--battle-fight-so they say that.---Fight is more for an addiction.

      6 months ago
    • Skyemberr's Avatar

      I dunno about that @meyati. I think we are all fighting with this disease and our bodies are at war with our cells/mutations.

      I agree with what you said about them wanting to make death from cancer more personalized and palatable. I think it is to keep the public feeling less scared.

      6 months ago
    • meyati's Avatar

      The above isn't my opinion, it is the journalistic practice here. The only thing I have to do with it is to watch/listen to the news, and read the newspaper.

      The NM media reports on more than the deaths. When someone, especially, a small child has an unusual medical condition or is wiped out by a car wreck---local media supports the family-sometimes car dealers will donate a safe car to the family-the local TV stations have go-fund-me accounts for these families. Right now a girl about 10 was in a car wreck, and all of the muscles and tendons that hold her head up were severed. They didn't think that she'd make it, and she had marathon surgery with shifts of nurses and surgeons. She has to wear a halo to hold her head in place--They keep giving updates-and the NM community is helping her.and her family.

      We lost a little football player to a rare cancer---While he was living, a high school football team adopted him. He sat on the bench with the players, went to practice, He started some of the games by doing the coin toss. He was about 8 years old.

      6 months ago
    • meyati's Avatar

      I will add, that after someone remarkable passes, the media goes back about a year later to honor the person, even a 2 year old. Another person we are honoring is an infant who was born with his heart on the wrong side. He's about 2 now.

      6 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      I frankly don't think anyone should be thought of as a victim in any situation. In the modern mindset there is a nuance of "the victim is partially responsible for their circumstances. For assault they shouldn't have been walking in that dark alley, or a car crash they weren't driving defensibly or cancer they didn't follow a healthy lifestyle. I am also seeing the word victim used for people with strokes and Parkinson's disease. I am also seeing it used as victims of domestic violence. I would like to see the word victim ruled out of our journalistic language.

      6 months ago

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