• Advice for a wife?

    Asked by jennymichaels on Monday, March 11, 2013

    Advice for a wife?

    My husband was just diagnosed with testicular cancer on February 22nd and we are still in the process of testing. He is going for his third biopsy tomorrow and he starting to loose faith. Any advice on how to stay positive without upsetting him?

    6 Answers from the Community

    6 answers
    • Peroll's Avatar

      Jenny, the process iof getting all of the tests before beginning treatment is often the worst part of the process as it feels like no progress is being made, but the tests are necessary to be sure that they have all the information needed to get the treatemt right. I also know that the process feels like a roller coster ride with the ups and downs (like on a roller coster the downs seem to be the most dramatic). I know that everyone saysd to stay [positive but staying positive all of the time is not really possible, you and he jkust need to be positive more than than you are negitive. The cancer can be beat, there are lots of people here that have beat cancers of all types. Look up Ticklingh Cancer here on WhatNext as he has beat testicular cancer.

      You do need to make sure that you takre care of your self in addition to talking care of him. You need to be able to express your feelings about the cancer and what is is doing to both of you. If you need it look for a support group. Make sure that you get some time for your self away from him and the cancer. I know my wife has needed her time away.

      Once treatments start things should at least feel like progress is being made, though chemo is not easy it is the start of the path to a cure. You both can and will beat this. Good Luxck and let us know how it goes.

      over 3 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      We have a WhatNexter @ticklingcancer who is stage 3 testicular cancer survivor. You can drop him a msg. on his page. He will have some info for you.

      over 3 years ago
    • Crash's Avatar

      What's he losing faith in? That he'll be cured? That he's as much of a man as he used to be? That the economy won't improve?

      over 3 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      Tell him to keep his chin up. I was diagnosed with Stage III Testicular Cancer in November 2011. Here we are in March 2013, 1 year since I completed chemo and I'm in remission. He has a tough road ahead of him but this is a treatable, even curable cancer. Please contact me if you have any questions.

      over 3 years ago
    • jennymichaels' Avatar

      He is starting to worry that he won't be able to be cured. With each test result the odds keep on going down, he continues to have increased pain, and the cancer is becoming more and more complicated. We have an appointment today with the oncologist for final diagnosis and staging. I will let you guys know once I have more information.

      over 3 years ago
    • raysmom's Avatar

      You haven't mentioned surgery. Did they removal the mass yet? I'm assuming by "treatment" you mean the chemo or radiology and what not. At any rate, as ticklingcancer stated, this is a very treatable and curable cancer. My son's oncologist scared us when she said he has a "very aggressive" form of cancer but she followed that immediately by saying "but it is also the most curable"

      over 3 years ago

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