• After surgery and radiation treatments which ended on August 2012, my husband seems very depressed.

    Asked by Gray on Monday, April 29, 2013

    After surgery and radiation treatments which ended on August 2012, my husband seems very depressed.

    Has anyone else felt depressed or down after surgery and radiation, my husband is cancer free, but is going for his 6 month CAT scan in May. He is a larengectome so it has been a drastic change in his lifestyle, not able to work and is now on disability. Throughout this whole ordeal which began in April2012 he has had the best attitude ever, even when he could not talk, waiting for them to put his voice prosthesis in and learning to talk with it, did get a little frustrated when he had to write everything down although I did get very good at reading his lips, actually his new voice sounds really good, the quality of his voice sounds so much better now than before his surgery. I know he is in pain a lot in his shoulder and back, I was very worried about that but had X-rays and tests done and he has arthritis. He used to always be so happy even when he was fighting to live, he never complained and kept telling me he would be ok and was going to beat this. Any advice?

    3 Answers from the Community

    • Peroll's Avatar

      Gray, Depression in cancer patients post treatment is common. I know this first hand and from the people here on WhatNext. Treatments can affect the seretonin levels in the brain which is what causes depression. Chemo d0oes it more often that raadiation and surgery but they can all do it. It is not your husbands fault. It also turns out that cancer Drs are not weell trained to recognise or treat the depression so you may have to seek help from his promary care Dr. The good news is that it is easily treatable with meds and he can get back to more lioke normal. It does take a couple of weeks on the meds for them to fully work so be patient. Good Luck.

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar

      I beat depression by planting a garden. It was only a small garden in front of my house. But I call it my "Victory Garden" This year it will be very small because I am now fighting a new primary and the return of my cancer but I am determined to have my "Victory Garden" I see by your profile that your husband has suffered a loose both his voice and his job. Those along can make one feel depressed. Having a project (perhaps a garden) just seems to take away the depression. I also make it a point to every day witness the sunrise (he can get back to bed right after sunrise but I'll bet he won't) What I am saying is focus on "Can Do" not "Can't Do" He might discover some talents he never knew he had.

      over 5 years ago
    • SandiD's Avatar

      For many of us, after treatment ends is a very scary time. I worried that no one was checking me so often anymore! My focus from fighting to live changed to worrying about what my life will be like now. I also focused too much on what I could not now. We really have to reinvent ourselves and learn to enjoy life again. Try to encourage your husband to get some help for himself. It may just take time, but if he is willing to speak to his doctor about this, it may really help him. Don't forget to ask for support for yourself too if necessary. This is stressful for both of you. Good luck!

      over 5 years ago

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