• Alone or with them

    Asked by Gizz on Friday, May 24, 2019

    Alone or with them

    Just stopping in. I go meet my Surgeon for the first time in 7 more days. My question is should I go in to the exam room alone or bring in the two people who are here with me fighting this cancer? They will be coming to the appointment also.

    7 Answers from the Community

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    • Mlaq's Avatar
      Mlaq

      He’ll want to examine you first. I didn’t want anyone in there during that. But then you’ll put your clothes on and he’ll discuss. That’s when I brought in my people. The drs seem to be very accommodating

      4 months ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      I agree with Mlaq. Once he examines you, and gives you a minute to get dressed, then have your people come in.
      I had my daughter with me and she took notes. The doctor would even spell the medical terms for her so we could look them up later. Have someone take notes for you. It will help you understand what will be going on.

      4 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      You've gotten good advice. The truth is that whatever you are comfortable with is the right decision for you. But always have another "set of ears" listening because it's a lot of information to digest for just one person, especially when your mind is spinning from the diagnosis and exam.

      4 months ago
    • lindag's Avatar
      lindag

      I had my husband and mother with me. I was glad to have them there. My surgeon did a quick exam, nothing that I was embarrassed of in front of my husband or mother. I had my surgery a year ago yesterday.

      4 months ago
    • alivenwell's Avatar
      alivenwell

      No scribe existed for my oncologist or my initial surgeon, but surgery was observed by several medical students. Approximately 5 appointments with my surgeon had no scribe, but subsequent appointments had medical scribes. I went alone and when we were alone, I thanked him for saving my life. If there is a scribe, you could compare notes with what your friends heard.

      4 months ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      My doctor talks to me first then exams me. So I always have my sister and or husband go in with me. He has a curtain he pulls when it is time for the exam. I have a couple friends that have taken me and I was not as comfortable bringing them in so I went in alone but I always felt fine having my sister or husband in the room.

      4 months ago
    • Gizz's Avatar
      Gizz

      Hello, I liked all your answer and I chose to go in first. That was a mistake. I sat there in front of my Surgeon with a dumb look on my face as he explain what he planned to do and showed me were this cancer is and started me on my plan with radiation oncologist, medical oncologist ect… Asked me if I had any questions, which I left out front and husband and sister in-law too. No, couldn't think. That's O.K. next appointment they are coming in with me. If he needs to check me and I have to get undressed they can just step out the door for a minute. I'll fix him, hahahahaha1

      4 months ago

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