• Am I being silly?

    Asked by BoiseB on Thursday, October 11, 2018

    Am I being silly?

    I have had two pretty serious cancers. I was given two death sentences . It has been 5 years that I had been cancer-free That changed a couple of weeks ago. When the Dr. found a rather large squamous cell skin cancer on my arm. I am scheduled for MOHs surgery on October 24. The other night I had a nightmare that the incision became infected and my arm was swelling. I never had nightmares about a 9 hour esophagectomy? Am I being silly?

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I wouldn't call it silly, maybe a high anxiety level. You have every right to be anxious, nervous, worried and more. I wish you the best with your surgery and recovery, I know you'll do great.

      10 days ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I agree with Greg. You aren't being silly at all, @BoiseB. You are rightfully dreading another procedure, another fight. Plus, you have other stressors, like moving and the falls ... you are in my thoughts and prayers.

      10 days ago
    • Lauraandmary's Avatar
      Lauraandmary

      Not silly at all! You've been to the rodeo a few times and know too much!

      10 days ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I agree with others. Not silly at all. Unfortunately we all know a little too much. Wishing you the best for your surgery. Let us know how it goes.

      9 days ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Boise, I've had 3 Moh's surgeries. Two on my face, and one on my leg.
      I had them done in a dr's. office under just a local anesthesia. The one on my nose was uncomfortable because nose surgery is sort of delicate with very little fat on that area. The other two were not so bad.
      The doctor cuts away layer after layer of skin until it is shown under a microscope, as all clear of bad cells. He bandages it up, gives you instructions on care, you go home, take a pain pill & a nap.

      I have had much, much worse stuff done to me, believe me. A Moh's surgeon is very competent & will take good care of you. Mine had free donuts & bagels while you wait for the results!
      Not to worry, I would much rather have a Moh's surgery than go to a @%$# dentist!

      9 days ago
    • Ivy's Avatar
      Ivy

      Not silly at all. I've had 2 mohs surgeries plus the other generally more serious cancer procedures. Once you've been down this road, it's hard to forget what it's like, no matter exactly what you're facing. I think you'll come through this relatively unscathed, although "anticipation" is hard to put aside. I think you'll do well in spite of understandably being worried. If you're lucky, the first attempt to get the squamous cancer out will do the trick. Hope so!

      9 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      @Molly72 Thank you for your reassurance. But how far away from dental surgery was the MOHs surgery. I have had dental surgery where I almost died.

      9 days ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      My mom did really well with her MOHS. And she was in a home, where they really didn't pay enough attention to her. Got a bit of infection because of that, but it got cleared up quickly w/an antibiotic cream. Almost no pain.

      9 days ago
    • lh25's Avatar
      lh25

      Not a bit! You have been through more then your share, of course you have concerns.

      9 days ago
    • Molly72's Avatar
      Molly72

      Boise-- I really only have one major fear & that is dental work! Well, maybe snakes too, but I don't have too many where I live.
      The dental work I have had to do was terrible - I actually bit one dentist during a root canal which is the worst procedure ever. Moh's is NOTHING near dental procedures! I ask for gas for cleanings!!!

      Moh's surgery on my leg was not really bad, and that would probably would be similar to your arm.That would be a good place to have your surgery as there is ample fat there. You get numbed up quite thoroughly, but ask for more shots if you want. The dr. will remove a very thin area of skin & immediately check it for cancer cells. If edges of skin are free & clear, you are done. If there are still bad cells remaining, Dr. removes another layer & checks it. The most layers I ever had were three. Usually one or two layers does it.

      Hope that calms you down, really it is not that bad at all.

      9 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Hey Molly fear of dentists is a perfectly rational fear. I dentist almost killed me. And a root canal is not the most painful dental procedure. The most painful dental prcedure is an abscessed tooth; I rate that one just under a c-section. I am sorry if I have fueled your fear of dentists. But now I can skip the worrying about the MOHs surgery and worry about the dental surgery I will be looking into when I get to Olympia

      9 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      @Ivy I looked at your profile and I see we share two cancers.

      9 days ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      @BoiseB and @Molly72 I am right there with you. I hate the dentist. Last time I had a cavity filled I ended up with an infection. The whole side of my face swelled up and I was in pain for days. Ended up in the ER. I have major dental anxiety

      9 days ago
    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      Dreams are surreal. They almost never predict anything, but do tend to reflect a state of mind. Is worry rational? Normal, yes, but not rational, since, in legalese, it assumes facts not in evidence. We hear all the time about "scanxiety" and that is a normal human reaction. However, I prefer to view scans with "scanticipation" of a clean scan. Why must we always tend toward the negative? Only rarely are our worries ever realized. And, when one does come true, what is best? Panic and run in circles, or resolve to deal with it? We all know by now that we are stronger than we thought. Why not exercise that strength?

      For those who are prone to worry (i.e. human), I advise them to get a spiral binder and keep a log of worries as they crop up. Periodically, say weekly or even monthly, go back and cross off those worries which never materialized. I am betting that all or nearly all of them will be crossed off. If any do come to pass, they are usually not as bad as we feared. And fear is the driving force.

      What this bookkeeping does is give you power over your worry. You make it physical, tangible by writing it down. You triumph over it when you cross a worry off. You learn that worrying, while natural and normal, is essentially a waste of time.

      So, take charge! Deal a death blow to those worries by striking them through with your pen - which is mightier than the sword.

      9 days ago
    • cards7up's Avatar
      cards7up

      Hey Boise, I'm going the 16th for possible basal cell on the top of my ear! talk about a bad place to have it. They'll also do a full body check due to previous cancer diagnosis. Not looking forward to MOH'S in this area, but we gotta do what we gotta do! I think your dream will just make you more conscious of taking proper care and staying on top of it. Which I'm sure you'll do anyways!! Here's to us and a great MOH'S surgeon!!!

      9 days ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I was mostly ashamed of my nightmare not afraid. That is why I feel silly and stupid Thank all of you for your kind words

      8 days ago

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