• Am I being silly?

    Asked by BoiseB on Thursday, October 11, 2018

    Am I being silly?

    I have had two pretty serious cancers. I was given two death sentences . It has been 5 years that I had been cancer-free That changed a couple of weeks ago. When the Dr. found a rather large squamous cell skin cancer on my arm. I am scheduled for MOHs surgery on October 24. The other night I had a nightmare that the incision became infected and my arm was swelling. I never had nightmares about a 9 hour esophagectomy? Am I being silly?

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    • po18guy's Avatar
      po18guy

      Dreams are surreal. They almost never predict anything, but do tend to reflect a state of mind. Is worry rational? Normal, yes, but not rational, since, in legalese, it assumes facts not in evidence. We hear all the time about "scanxiety" and that is a normal human reaction. However, I prefer to view scans with "scanticipation" of a clean scan. Why must we always tend toward the negative? Only rarely are our worries ever realized. And, when one does come true, what is best? Panic and run in circles, or resolve to deal with it? We all know by now that we are stronger than we thought. Why not exercise that strength?

      For those who are prone to worry (i.e. human), I advise them to get a spiral binder and keep a log of worries as they crop up. Periodically, say weekly or even monthly, go back and cross off those worries which never materialized. I am betting that all or nearly all of them will be crossed off. If any do come to pass, they are usually not as bad as we feared. And fear is the driving force.

      What this bookkeeping does is give you power over your worry. You make it physical, tangible by writing it down. You triumph over it when you cross a worry off. You learn that worrying, while natural and normal, is essentially a waste of time.

      So, take charge! Deal a death blow to those worries by striking them through with your pen - which is mightier than the sword.

      9 months ago
    • cards7up's Avatar
      cards7up

      Hey Boise, I'm going the 16th for possible basal cell on the top of my ear! talk about a bad place to have it. They'll also do a full body check due to previous cancer diagnosis. Not looking forward to MOH'S in this area, but we gotta do what we gotta do! I think your dream will just make you more conscious of taking proper care and staying on top of it. Which I'm sure you'll do anyways!! Here's to us and a great MOH'S surgeon!!!

      9 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I was mostly ashamed of my nightmare not afraid. That is why I feel silly and stupid Thank all of you for your kind words

      9 months ago

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