• Anxiety so many years post dx

    Asked by Jackie on Friday, December 16, 2011

    Anxiety so many years post dx

    Well, I've made it 5 years post breast cancer dx and almost 25 years post leukemia dx. Hooray for me! However, I have stopped taking tamoxifen, my beloved oncologist has left the practice, my sweet dog of 14 years recently died, one of my coworker's brother died, and I'm feeling a bit anxious about another cancer dx ... and about dying (myself and my family members). One example is my refusal to drive our 1999 van. It's in good shape, but I'm too nervous to drive it because I don't want to get into an accident, especially if my kids are with me. When I eat, I think of how what I am eating will negatively affect my health (even if it's a piece of fruit - with those pesticides and all!) Like I said, it's not crazy anxiety, but something that has been in the forefront of my thoughts. Any long term survivors get these worries...even so many years out from dx? Anyone know of any long term survivor support groups in CT?

    2 Answers from the Community

    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Hi Jackie, I was 20 years out from last treatment 3 yrs ago when I found a lump in my neck. Prior to that, I didn't dwell on what it I find another one, or what if it comes back. I went about life like there was nothing wrong with me and never would be anything wrong with me again. After all, what good does worrying about it do? I have always been of the "glass have full" camp, look positive at anything in your life type of attitude. I could sit and wonder what if, and what will I do, but "it" may never happen. In the mean time I have spent days or years worrying about the what if's and just make life miserable, possibly making other health problems pop up, like ulcers, nervous or mental conditions. But this is just me, you need to find a way to relax about it, even if you have to talk to a therapist. My opinion, and thats all it is, is that we need to be positive about where we are in life, and not worry about what we can't do anything about. When My cancer returned for the 3rd time 3 years ago, there was absolutely nothing I could have done to prevent it, so worrying about it and not doing this or that wouldn't have helped a thing and maybe drove me crazy about it.
      I am from TN so cant tell you about groups in your area, but I do know that most treatment centers in all areas have support groups, give them a call, and also call the American Cancer Society's 800# and talk to someone there, they will have helpful information.
      I wish you peace of mind, good health and good holiday's.

      almost 5 years ago
    • KarenG_WN's Avatar

      Hi Jackie,

      I'm so sorry you're going through rough time and about your beloved dog. I have a dog and know that our pets are very much our family, too.

      Please know that you are not alone. Many people experience late onset anxiety. There was a post recently about this topic, and I thought it might be helpful to read those responses. Here is the link: http://whatnext.com/questions/late-onset-depression-and-anxiety

      I bet a lot of people will weigh in on this. Please reach out to us or any others on the network whenever you need to.

      almost 5 years ago

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