• any advice on help

    Asked by PennyS on Tuesday, June 4, 2019

    any advice on help

    I have a question... anyone know where I could find help with financial issues. I don't want to go into great detail, but basically I need to get a car. The one I have now has no A/C and the windows don't open. In Texas, that is a problem. Going to and from infusion and the never ending doctor appointments is not going to be possible soon. There is no ride program here, I don't have any family, and the cost of taxis is out of the question. Repairs on the current car are more than the car is worth, even if I had the money. Short of robbing a bank, I'm out of ideas.

    29 Answers from the Community

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    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      I wish I had a better answer, and apology if I’m saying the obvious, but have you spoken with one of your hospital’s social workers? Also, maybe a cancer organization has some ideas or can help you. I wish you all the best. If you feel like it, please let us know how you fared.

      5 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      There is help out there for a variety of things. I am not aware of a resource that provides cars, but I have seen locally one of the news stations provides whatever certain people need if they are nominated and chosen as the winner of a "surprise". Those are about like winning the lottery though. Look on our resources pages for anything that might help you. Here are the links>>
      https://www.whatnext.com/cc/Resources_For_Cancer_Patients_Survivors_And_Family

      There are lots of places on this list that provide different things for cancer patients, maybe someof them will help you.

      I can tell you from personal experience in trying to get financial help for dental issues, it takes lots of time and patience to finally get some help. You have to contact them, send the required application and supporting documents in, maybe even a form filled out by your doctor, to get accepted. The reason is that some of the scum of the earth people will try to scam these places for money and fake having cancer. Sad world we live in.

      The only other option might be contacting some of the used car dealers in town and asking if they may help, or know of someone that might be a person that helps people in need.

      We wish you the best and hope you find some help.

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Penny, I'm sorry for your stress at this time, but you haven't given us your location in Texas or whether you are employed, etc., so we might have more ideas. A better car might be too expensive, but transportation is often available and arranged through organizations like the American Cancer Society. They often have volunteers who DRIVE people to treatments. If you have a dependable car except for AC, don't sell it, because dependable cars are sky high now.

      I'm a single woman also, and I would get estimates (by phone) for fixing the window(s), which also would not be difficult for a friend to do who's mechanically inclined. Remember to compare prices and not hire the first people you call. Then, armed with that price information, call charities and churches to ask if they have anybody who helps people with car problems---if you brainstorm, you may know a friend with a husband or relative who's a mechanic, etc., and you could offer to pay or make his favorite dinner to pay for his time. I think the parts to fix the windows would be inexpensive. Remember the more people you ask, the more likely somebody is to offer to help!!

      Best wishes to you! I'm in Alabama, so I get the H-E-A-T!!!

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Personally I would call churches and ask for prayers about the situation and something would likely happen!!

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Have you heard that FREE housing and transportation are available in some cities, provided by the American Cancer Society? If you call them, maybe they can help you find a different town and doctor for your treatment to get the transportation you need.....

      It would be fun to live in Hope Lodge with other cancer patients with a shared living area to cook and visit. The food could be free. I don't know, but call the American Cancer Society to find out.

      5 months ago
    • PennyS's Avatar
      PennyS

      Thanks for all the responses. I have tried to get rides through the cancer society, even with two weeks notice there hasn't been any available. I got three estimates to fix the windows, the lowest being just under $500/ window (it may as well be $5 million). Moving to a new city, changing doctors, and living at the Hope Lodge doesn't seem like a good idea. And I have prayed alot since my diagnosis, that doesn't seem to be helping in any area. I am out of ideas. Thanks for the input, I guess some problem just don't have an answer.

      5 months ago
    • CherieF's Avatar
      CherieF

      I am not sure about what insurance company you deal with but mine has a resource nurse who asks me about financial aid every time she calls. Check with them. Maybe they can help. good luck! I will be praying for you.

      5 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      GregP_WN You are so right on this

      I can tell you from personal experience in trying to get financial help for dental issues, it takes lots of time and patience to finally get some help. You have to contact them, send the required application and supporting documents in, maybe even a form filled out by your doctor, to get accepted. The reason is that some of the scum of the earth people will try to scam these places for money and fake having cancer. Sad world we live in. You are so right on this

      I'm finally getting surgeryTuesday June 4th.After struggling since August of 2018. Second time around since 2012>I had I had teeth pulled,bridges,then 6 fell out in Dec.of one year not to long after? Had to have some oral surgery.Been with a denture for 6 front teeth since.And been going to a dental hospital since August 2018 witch I was told it won't be more then 6 months.YEAH ! It's been 10-11 months and not finished.The dentist that I've been seeing is graduating July of 2020.He was always joking that he's gong to keep me 'til then ,beccause he liked me.lol! It sure looks like I may be stuck 'til then. I wouldn't have a way of going to his graduation,but it would be nice.He's a real nice young man.

      5 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      GregP_WN I feel a little sorry of being negative here when this lady needs help desperately.I've been in her shoes for years and it's no joke when ther's no one there for you.God has blessed me with strangers on and off for my needs,but sometimes if not most of the time especially latelyit's very stressful,and anxiety and depression sets in.And I'm told to have faith and trust in my God.Witch I do very much,but when it comes to this world and worldly people and the Church even more so and don't live for God be one of the things "Love your neighbor as youself""And to bare each others burdens"etc.There's no such thing for some of us.We struggle for everything being lonely.And I'm not talking about being alone.Loneliness is being rejected left and right from family and so call friends and the Church>brothers and sisters especially.Sorry for venting and rambling on.Just have to say my piece sometimes.
      You can delete if you'd like.

      5 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      June 5, 2019
      Verse of the Day
      Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
      Hebrews 4:16 KJV

      5 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.

      1 Thessalonians 5:11 KJV

      5 months ago
    • PennyS's Avatar
      PennyS

      PaulineJ,

      I didn't take your response as negativity. The harsh fact is that the only one you can count on is yourself. Granted, my "friends" seem to have disappeared since my diagnosis, I have no family, and the church I was going to loves you when you have cash for the collection plate (not so much if you don't). But I have made it this far alone. If I have to stop treatments, I will. I'm pretty tired of being sick and tired anyway.

      Thanks for your input though. At least I know that these things don't just happen to me.

      5 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      PennyS
      Not to go against you,but Just saying> I've learnt the Tne Church(The Body of Christ) (The People) is the Church,not a religion, building,denomination,congregation....after we're saved by thr Blood of Jesus 1Cor.15:1-4 and Romans 3:25.Jesus is not a religion.It's a relationship.I don't count on myself.I have Faith and Trust in Him alone.He's the only One who took my place on the cross for my sins.
      KJV only> Some of my verses that I go by.
      John 12:25 KJV
      James 4:4
      1John2:15
      2Timothy 2:3

      5 months ago
    • Marlene1031's Avatar
      Marlene1031

      For financial aid, check with the social worker at the hospital. The one here got me quite a few grants to apply for each year. They may not be much but it adds up and really helps pay bills, rent, mortgage, etc. Frees up money that I used to get a better car. Keep trying, helps is out there, you just need to keep looking.

      5 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I know that we have given cars to people who need them. We gave one recently to a church friend of our son. It needed a $25 starter, which he knew how to install. I'm just saying that there are options out there and BarbarainBham gave a ton of great suggestions. None of the cars we gave were new, but they ran ... and they had air conditioning.

      I would pray and pray hard that God will open whatever door it is that needs to be opened. I know I looked to see where you live to see if I could help provide transportation ... but since no town is listed, there's no way to know. I suspect you don't live in my vicinity anyway, but you might live in an area where I do know people who might help or might have ideas.

      The church my son attended is very small, but it is definitely interested in far more than the collection plate. It is a Cowboy Church ... are there any of those near you? It is small and it doesn't have much money, but it has a phenomenal congregation, full of people who help one another - if not financially, at least by providing services.

      When my son was alive, he put aside 10-15% of every week's paycheck. He saved that money so that when he heard about people who were badly in need of something, he could help them get it. Now, he never told anyone he did that (except his wife, my husband and me) ... so you might think there's no one at the church who would help, but there might be someone there like my son who would.

      Maybe, the church could post a plea for your need in the Sunday bulletin or post it on their Website or something. Like BarbarainBham said, the part needed to fix your car probably doesn't cost much ... it is the labor that makes it so expensive. So, the answer to your need could just be a mechanic who would donate his or her time to replace the motor or whatever is wrong with the windows in your car.

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Penny, remember you need to keep an open mind, not just for the obvious, but so you can "hear" God speaking to you telling you an idea to help you----or to consider one of OUR ideas to help you. Don't close a door that may help you. I'll pray for you, but remember the Bible says God helps those who help themselves. . . . meaning nothing negative, just being more optimistic!!

      Have you considered calling your church secretary to put in the weekly announcements that a mechanic is needed with reduced charges for a cancer patient? (Maybe someone will volunteer for no cost!) Ask the ACS National group for help announce that need in a larger town/city. (Again I don't know where you live.)

      Call the people you asked for a car and ask for help even fixing one or two of the windows. Also could you travel earlier in the morning for your treatments? (My parents used to leave in the dark to drive us without AC for 6 hours to the beach when I was an Alabama child in the 1950's. Believe it or not, it was so fun!)

      If all else fails, think of groups of men who need YOUR help, especially if they don't work----veterans, homeless veterans, whatever----call and ask if any know how to fix a car window, and offer to donate to their group or to the individual, whether cash or food or a surprise. Make it worthwhile.

      Penny, I could go on and on. You just need to open your mind. We're praying for you. Bless you.

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Penny, I'm excited about getting somebody in a veterans group to fix your doors. They will have your gift, but most of all, they'll feel confident they helped you, and hopefully continue to help others. That's the only way to make this a better world.

      Yesterday I prayed for God to show me WHO and HOW He wanted me to help, and you showed up. I should have known you would be here, because I only leave the house to buy groceries.

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      I just read LiveWithCancer's post, and I apologize for repeating some of her great ideas.

      I mainly wanted to tell LWC what a wonderful son she raised, and let you all know that he recently passed away.... He is an inspiration for all of us. God bless us all.

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Penny, please note that LWC is from Texas and offered to help if she knows your town.

      5 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      BarbarainBham Is there a bible verse in the bible that says that.
      There's none.He works through the Church(His people ) to help each other.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qj3hxCtn-gw

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=un6hyb60x7U

      5 months ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      When I called American Cancer Society to schedule myself into a Look Good, Feel Better class, they were trying to push a grant on me for gas. I refused it, as I live 3 miles from my infusion center and 5 miles from my hospital. I told them to keep it for someone who really needs it. Have you asked them if there are any grants available in your area?

      5 months ago
    • PennyS's Avatar
      PennyS

      Thanks you all. I'm going to try looking for grants.

      5 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      PaulineJ, I'm definitely not an expert on the Bible. I do remember seeing that God helps those who help themselves, because that's what my mother used to say, and I had no idea it was in the Bible!

      I'm sorry I'm not more help, Pauline. I think church members can be led by God, but that doesn't mean God wouldn't help another way, does it?

      Penny, I don't mean to be rude, but why aren't you taking LiveWithCancer up on her offer to help? She lives in Texas.

      4 months ago
    • PennyS's Avatar
      PennyS

      LWC... I live in Lubbock. Sorry I didn't let you know sooner, but I'm a little weary of putting my location on a website.

      4 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      BarbarainBham I understand .You're not alone.Just a little to help you understand >God helps those who can't help themselves.So the next time you hear someone say “God helps those who help themselves,” remind them what the Bible says instead: God helps those who can’t help themselves.

      Those who trust in themselves are fools,
      but those who walk in wisdom are kept safe. (Proverbs 28:26)

      If we can’t trust ourselves, then what hope do we have? Fortunately, the Bible has an answer. The prophet Isaiah declares that God helps those who are utterly helpless:

      You have been a refuge for the poor,
      a refuge for the needy in their distress,
      a shelter from the storm
      and a shade from the heat.
      For the breath of the ruthless
      is like a storm driving against a wall (Isaiah 25:4)

      God provides tangibly for those who are helpless and needy. God helps those who can’t help themselves. And who does the Bible consider helpless? Everyone! “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” the Bible tells us:

      “There is no one righteous, not even one;
      there is no one who understands;
      there is no one who seeks God.
      All have turned away,
      they have together become worthless;
      there is no one who does good,
      not even one.” (Romans 3:10–12)

      When it comes to our greatest need—rescue from sin and death—there’s nothing we can do to save ourselves. All have turned from God; all have sinned. We are utterly unable to find true spiritual peace through our own efforts. Thankfully, that is where God comes in:

      You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly… God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:6,8)

      Christ’s death is the solution to the problem of sin and death that we can’t solve on our own. It’s tempting to think that we might be able to help ourselves out of even this predicament, but the Bible clearly teaches that there’s nothing we can do on our own to find salvation.

      For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8–9)

      Our help comes from God alone, and it happens when we turn our lives over to him in faith, trusting in the work of Christ on the cross. This isn’t something we work for; and there’s certainly nothing we can change about ourselves to make us worthy of God’s help. Instead, we are saved by the passionate, undeserved love of God. It’s his gift to us!

      So the next time you hear someone say “God helps those who help themselves,” remind them what the Bible says instead: God helps those who can’t help themselves.

      That means you, me… and the world.

      4 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Penny, I have a friend who is a judge in Lubbock. And, I know one of the assistant superintendents (whatever the title they use there is) for the Lubbock school district - I worked for her in Dallas.

      I will see if they have any ideas...

      4 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My cousin wrote that she knows someone in Lubbock, too, that she is contacting to see if s/he can be of any assistance. I'll let you know what I hear, if anything.

      4 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      PennyS - I posted on your wall with information and some questions my friend who is the judge gave and has. If you would like to give me more information about your situation, you can email me at livewithcancer2015 @ gmail.com ... getting rid of the extra spaces, of course. (The system won't allow us to give email addresses here.

      4 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      PaulineJ, thank you.
      The phrase I mentioned is in the New Testament, which I've studied more than the Old Testament, and feel that it is an "update" to the Old Testament. In many places the Old Testament conflicts.

      The phrase you discussed sounds negative to me, or either I didn't understand.

      4 months ago

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