• Any parents of little ones with cancer out there?

    Asked by Katesimsek on Friday, January 6, 2012

    Any parents of little ones with cancer out there?

    I am a single parent with two children aged 3 1/2 and 18 months and am appalled at the lack of help out there for single parents. When I am done with my treatment I have decided to make it my goal to create resources for single parents with cancer. I want to start a support group that part of it will be survivors helping patients with things like crisis care, transportation to and from school/day care etc. If any of you are interested in this type of thing let me know. I will be doing it for Ft. Wayne, but maybe you would like something in your area and we can connect to help with ideas etc. I am only at the beginning of this as I still have about 4 months of treatment left, but I just want any ideas interests etc. that you may think of.

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    • Katesimsek's Avatar

      I am sorry about the original question, I should have edited it. I meant cancer patients who are parents of young children.

      over 10 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn (Best Answer!)

      hey there - i don't know whereabouts you are from, but up here in the frozen tundra of minnesota, we have an awesome foundation that does some spectacular stuff for parents.....


      even if you don't have something like this locally, you might be able to get connected to some resources... or at the very least, begin there with your own ideas!

      best wishes...

      over 10 years ago
    • momsofzeck's Avatar

      I have a 3 yr old son. I believe kids are terrific support and morale. Their one kiss gives more and more energy. You just want to be alive and fight more when you are with them. I believe they are angels or they have a specific connection with angels...
      look at my blog where I mention about cancer in English (past writings)

      over 10 years ago
    • SunnyCloud's Avatar

      Hello, I live in Mount Dora, FL. Not only do we have a social worker right in the cancer center, but you can seek help of all kinds with the American Cancer Society. They are the ones who provided free and caring transportation for me. Why dont you contact them? Im leaving you with a phone number and a couple of links with info & links in them. God bless & keep you close. <3



      Call:[phone number redacted]

      over 10 years ago
    • MamasLibrary's Avatar

      Hello! I just went through two surgeries and chemotherapy with a little man. Canceecare.org offered counseling to him which was great! He's was less effected than I thought he would be and yes, their kisses and hugs will get you up in the morning! I found being open and honest on his comprehension level worked wonders. Best of luck!!!

      over 10 years ago
    • Katesimsek's Avatar

      I just want to clarify, I have the help that I need and I have created the resources that I need for my care, but I am looking for ideas or interest in helping create an organization specifically to help single parents with cancer. My girls get me through everything, and I am lucky enough to have the greatest best friend ever, but what about people who don't, where do they get their support. I am going to create a group to give them that through their treatment. I also know about the transportation to and from treatment, I am talking about transportation for my girls to daycare when I am not feeling well. I hope this clarifies my question.

      Thanks, any ideas or interest, or other examples of these types of groups is greatly appreciated.

      over 10 years ago
    • susie81610's Avatar

      I think your idea is great and I hope you can get something started. Support is a very hard thing to find when you are married I could not imagine doing it single with 2 small children I have the utmost respect for you parents that are single with cancer and no support. Also to the ones who are married and still don't get the support that they so deserve.
      I don't have alot of support but at least I have my hubby and 2 kids which are older and can do for themselves and me :) If I can be of any help let me know you could throw questions at me or ideas. Good Luck Susie

      over 10 years ago
    • danellsar's Avatar

      I have one younger and a teenager. The hardest part for me, other than the emotional issues, has been coordinating transportation and such for everyone. There are days when I have to be at 3 different locations at the same time, and figure out who is getting which kid and hubby. It's tough!! We have help from local friends, but sometimes I feel like I'm imposing. Although I'm not a single parent, I feel like one because my hubby is the one whose sick, and he's not able to be of much (any) help.

      A foundation to help parents (period) who are going through cancer with younger kids would be great! Especially if it included resources for transportation and child care, counseling for the family, and reading materials for parents and kids to share about how cancer is affecting their lives. I think that even a 2 parent family would need help to negotiate the "world of cancer" with kids.

      over 10 years ago
    • susanz's Avatar

      I am a single parent cancer patient as well. After being diagnosed a year ago, I could find no available resources for my situation at a local or higher level. It was very frustrating. I found "what next" late into my treatment. Perhaps a forum within what next for single parents patients with children could work?

      over 10 years ago
    • Katesimsek's Avatar

      I am being specific to Single parents for a reason. Please don't take offense at this, but now imagine being your husband without you. I have been lucky to find someone to help me, but I feel like I am imposing on her. If I can get this support group up and running the people we help won't feel like they are imposing, because that is the expected.

      over 10 years ago
    • Heidi's Avatar

      I have 2 little ones 2 and 4 and I am not a single parent but it is still hard. My hubby has to work to support our family and it is hard trying to find resourse to put my kids in like a daycare or what not because we can not afford it. it's ruff to have kids and cancer but it's also an amazing joy.

      over 10 years ago
    • tjclaw1's Avatar

      I have two children, ages 7 and 10. Although I don't have a diffinitive diagnosis yet, and am having my first appointment with my orthopedic oncologist this week, the juggling I had to do for my children for one day in Chicago was crazy. I live 90 miles from the doctor and my appointment would require me to leave at 6am on a school day to avoid rush hour traffic and get to my appointment on time. Fortunately, my sister is keeping the girls overnight and will take them to school, and then my ex will pick them up from school and keep them till I get home. I'm hoping to be able to consolidate all my testing and appointments so I don't have to drive into the city as much.

      over 10 years ago

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