I had rectal cancer and lived with an ileostomy for a while. I couldn't get up the courage to date then and since it was temporary, I didn't worry so much. I'm not finished with treatment but not without side effects. I have a scar on my belly that looks like a gun shot wound and I went into early menopause from the radiation I received. I have managed to get back out there with my friends and my activities but I haven't been able to get up the courage to date.
Everyone tells me it's no big deal and that I don't even have to tell anyone what I have been through unless the relationship gets serious. I know they are right but I just feel like I haven't figured out my body yet, how and the heck am I supposed to share it with someone else. I know in my heart that when I find the right guy, it won't matter but you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince and some of those frogs can be really mean!
I wish I had an answer for you. I hope knowing that you are not alone in how you are feeling provides some comfort. I am just taking it one day at a time, getting out there without looking for a date and hoping the right guy comes along. Afterall, I couldn't find one before I was sick, what makes me think I can find one now!