• Anyone the mother of a daughter with advanced cancer?

    Asked by Birchwood on Thursday, September 20, 2018

    Anyone the mother of a daughter with advanced cancer?

    8 Answers from the Community

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    • fluteplayer's Avatar
      fluteplayer

      My daughter has a very rare,brain cancer. Kittanning flew her to New York as no one would operate,on her. Never will grow hair but me neither. My only hope,is I die,before her and my husband. Very likely as lungs keep filling up and had to breathe

      3 months ago
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      fluteplayer

      Hard to breathe. They want to put a drain in So I can make bloody marys,anytime.
      .

      3 months ago
    • cllinda's Avatar
      cllinda

      Sometimes, we get situations in our life that can be unbearable. We have to push ourselves to deal with it as best as we can
      When my son was 19, he fell from a tree and was seriously injured. Broke the ball off the bone in his shoulder. Shattered his elbow. Cracked ribs and much more. Just horrible. Three surgeries, rehab and other things. Great doctors who really worked hard on him. And with the Grace of God he made it through it all.
      And two months after his accident, I found out I had breast cancer. So August of 2012 started a year and a few months of just craziness of doctor appointments, hospital stays, pain, medicines and more.
      And six years later, we are thankful that we got through it all.
      Even though my story is different, we both love our kid and we will do a thing for them. God bless you both on this journey.

      3 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      I can't really think of a worst situation to be in. No one ever expects to bury one of their children. Thank Goodness that you are there for her. It is particularly hard for younger adults to be facing cancer at what seems to be the best times of their life.

      Make sure that she's had a second opinion - young adult cancer is sometimes more aggressive than cancer diagnosed in those over 50. Best wishes for treatment success.

      3 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My mom is. The hardest thing I think I have ever had to do was tell her that I have the same disease that killed my dad back in the 70s. My husband and I agreed to put as positive a spin on it as we possibly could.

      At first, she went to all appointments with us. When I changed doctors and hospitals/clinics, I wanted her to quit coming. She didn't always understand what the doctor was saying and I didn't always want her to know what he was saying ... sometimes I want to put my own spin on it (and, of course, she knows that so she wants to hear for herself...)

      My mom is a big worrier. I am not. I want to give her as little to worry about as possible. I believe that worry is wasted energy, but I can't convince her of it.

      My son didn't have cancer, but he has fought horrible PTSD his entire adulthood. I'd rather have cancer than that.

      Anyway, even if we haven't gone through exactly what you are going through, we are here for you and we may understand better than you think.

      I went to your profile to see if I could learn anything about your daughter, but it isn't completed. If you don't mind answering a few questions, we might be of more help. How old is your daughter? What kind of cancer does she have? How long ago was she diagnosed? Do you live nearby? How is she tolerating treatments? Does she also have children? Do they live at home?

      3 months ago
    • judyart's Avatar
      judyart

      I am 75, 2 years past surgery for nsclc adcarcinoma. Our Daughter in May was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer, she was immediately treated with chemotheraphy. yesterday she was able to ring the bell for her last treatment. In 4 weeks she will have another ct scan. And then she will have Radiation. But so for she has survived.

      3 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      @judyart - wow ... what are the chances that mom and daughter would both be battling the same lung cancer? I am glad that you are both doing well!

      3 months ago
    • Skyemberr's Avatar
      Skyemberr

      My mom is battling the same cancer I have right now. I am just further along than she is and she has a chance of killing it if it shrinks enough through chemo for a surgery to get it.

      My mom was very stand offish with me due to her own issues while I was first battling cancer. Now we are a lot closer.

      3 months ago

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