• Are you going to a large Family get together tomorrow? Or are you afraid of getting sick.

    Asked by cancervivor on Wednesday, November 21, 2012

    Are you going to a large Family get together tomorrow? Or are you afraid of getting sick.

    We are always told to stay away from sick people, but we can't live in a bubble either! I'm having a smoked turkey dinner, I'm doing the smoking and going to have maybe 20 people over. I'm just going to use common sense and not let people be sneezing on me.

    Enjoy your Thanksgiving everyone

    23 Answers from the Community

    23 answers
    • Harry's Avatar
      Harry

      Yes, a big family get together. And, my family is bigger than most. I'm sure that a couple of brothers won't make it, and my daughters are too far from home (they'll be home for Christmas), but there will be more than enough of us.

      I've been off chemo for a while so I'm not concerned about getting sick.

      almost 5 years ago
    • bp440's Avatar
      bp440

      We hope to be with my husband's brother and family (18 or so). It's a 2 hour drive and he has been feeling the effects of his chemo from last week. So we won't know until the last minute whether he can make the trip. If not, we'll be home alone eating pork chops or chicken!
      We have lots to be thankful for this year.

      almost 5 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar
      ticklingcancer

      I have Thanksgiving lunch with my wifes family and dinner with my family. I've been done with chemo for a while so I'm good in the sick department but I can certainly understand not wanting to be around sick people. Everyone enjoy your Thanksgiving!!

      almost 5 years ago
    • Shamrock_Bindi's Avatar
      Shamrock_Bindi

      XXX yes I am going to my brothers and plan to eat myself silly! Life is too short and I am just going to relax and enjoy the day and appreciate my family. Too much worry and stress these last few months, I am taking a holiday from cancer!

      almost 5 years ago
    • Queen_Tatiana's Avatar
      Queen_Tatiana

      We're not doing a big family Thanksgiving, but we have rented a beach house and the boys (one with a significant other) are coming out for the long weekend with us. My husband is the cancer patient and he has a cold right now. He has been off chemo for the past 10 weeks due to having surgery and does go back on until after Christmas. He picked up cold meds from the pharmacy last night, along with prescription cough syrup so hopefully this helps him feel better.

      We generally stay awayy from large gatherings when he's on chemo due to his being so sick with the side effects, and he's so vulnerable to catching anything floating around. I am always shocked at how people who know he has cancer and is on chemo don't cover their mouth when they cough. I tend to get over protective of him, and hate the cancer even more because we can't join in on the fun with friends and family.

      almost 5 years ago
    • grannys' Avatar
      grannys

      I will be at my son's house with everyone that wants to be there. I am not having treatment so I am not too concerned about getting sick. I'm already sick, so heck, lets' enjoy the day!

      almost 5 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar
      SueRae1

      Were having a small celebration with friends. It's not that I'm afraid of getting ill, but after several large meals over the Jewish Holidays in Sept & Oct, I found that I can get overwhelmed by the noise, etc. so I decided to go low key this year.

      almost 5 years ago
    • akristine's Avatar
      akristine

      I live alone and my family is six hours away. We will be celebrating separately but together. Since I'm a kosher lacto-vegetarian, I make a Thanksgiving meal of Field Roast vegan sausage; butternut squash stuffed with quinoa; stuffing made from cranberries, chopped Granny Smith apples, walnuts and day-old cubed foccaccia bread; steamed carrots; mashed sweet potatoes with a little margarine and plain yogurt; celery sticks stuffed with cheese; pumpkin pie and Peet's Holiday Blend coffee. I'm thankful to be alive and able to enjoy the meal. I wish you all well!

      almost 5 years ago
    • CountryGirl's Avatar
      CountryGirl

      I suppose I am the only naysayer. My chemo was very aggressive and I was 40 I did not attend holiday gatherings. I didn't attend church. I switched to a smaller grocer. I avoided all groups. I didnt let anyone touch me--no hugs or and shakes. Even though my WBC dropped very low, I was never hospitalized for it.

      If you plan to live, to enjoy many more thanksgivings, why is this one worth risking your life. Before you plan a"holiday from cancer," be aware of your WBC counts.

      almost 5 years ago
    • princess123's Avatar
      princess123

      I'm lucky that my family and friends are very careful about their and their childrens colds and such when they are around me. They let me know if they are sick and we don't usualy get together at these times. My daughter and daughter inlaw delayed my grandaughter's vacination untill after our family get together this fall before school started to avoid my getting sick. The school approved it of course. I've never had to worry about it because everyone close to me worried about it for me.:)

      almost 5 years ago
    • princess123's Avatar
      princess123

      I'm lucky that my family and friends are very careful about their and their childrens colds and such when they are around me. They let me know if they are sick and we don't usualy get together at these times. My daughter and daughter inlaw delayed my grandaughter's vacination untill after our family get together this fall before school started to avoid my getting sick. The school approved it of course. I've never had to worry about it because everyone close to me worried about it for me.:)

      almost 5 years ago
    • princess123's Avatar
      princess123

      I'm lucky that my family and friends are very careful about their and their childrens colds and such when they are around me. They let me know if they are sick and we don't usualy get together at these times. My daughter and daughter inlaw delayed my grandaughter's vacination untill after our family get together this fall before school started to avoid my getting sick. The school approved it of course. I've never had to worry about it because everyone close to me worried about it for me.:)

      almost 5 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn

      Number one thing you can do is keep your hands clean - either wash up a lot or use hand sanitizer. GOOD LUCK!

      almost 5 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn

      I think being with family IS worth it... By the way. But, the comment about blood counts is reasonable. I had one week during which the nurses actually suggested I not go out and keep away from crowded public places. Otherwise, I just practiced good hand hygiene... and managed to get through the entire Minnesota winter with only two colds (better than the going average, let me tell you!).

      So, LIVING is a great idea... spending time with loved ones is important... with just a bit of reasonable caution....

      I worked through chemo and had a strict foam in policy for my office and home (hand sanitizing foam)... People were totally cool about it.... and I didn't shake anyone's hands. Hugs are actually much "safer" than hand shakes!

      Again - good luck! I hope you have a great holiday!

      almost 5 years ago
    • DorothyV's Avatar
      DorothyV

      My son is hosting Thanksgiving at his house. He lives close by. Our other children and their families are coming too. All four grandchildren will be there. We are each bringing side dishes. I am already on an antibiotic for a sinus infection . I am going, but will be careful. I am so thankful to be able to celebrate with my family. I have to believe God will keep me safe. Blessings to each of you and your families , today and every day!

      almost 5 years ago
    • WizardOfWesley's Avatar
      WizardOfWesley

      G-d Bless enjoy :-)

      almost 5 years ago
    • WizardOfWesley's Avatar
      WizardOfWesley

      G-d Bless enjoy yourself ...wish I was coming ...love smoked Turkey:-)

      almost 5 years ago
    • liznparadise's Avatar
      liznparadise

      Happy Thanksgiving. I'm thankful to be here to celebrate!!!

      almost 5 years ago
    • blondie's Avatar
      blondie

      Have someone nearby who can help you. Let someone know when you feel weak or ill. They should be thoughtful of your present health condition / ailments.

      almost 5 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      I have no real family left.

      I am a raw foodist.

      I celebrated Thankgiving with friends who are also raw foodies.

      Two years ago there were 9 of us who got together for the Holiday. Last year there were about 15 of us. This year we numbered over 40 people.

      Everybody brings something.

      We had raw bread and various salads and pates, vegetables and sauces aplenty, sprouted foods, mock sausages and meatballs, pickled brocolli (that was really awesome), lots of cranberry dressings and relish and stuffing and desserts that ranged from chocolate truffles to fruit pies to nut and coconut cookies and fruit and more.

      I hope that next year or next holiday, Akristine finds someone with whom to share the Holidays in person. There are online 'meet ups' of other local veggies at www.meetup.com in almost every area.

      I don't much worry about colds and flu because raw foodies seldom get them. Yes, I have health issues but not much of anything which can transfer with a hug or a handshake or even the sharing of food. My health issues stem from being unfortunate enough to live with toxic mold hidden behind the walls of my former home.

      I honestly believe that fresher and cleaner, non genetically modified, wholesome and better farmed food keeps a person healthier. I believe that information empowers us and that we need to learn to avoid toxic additives in food and in products. I can't understand why companies have been allowed to put poisons into the things they try to sell to us.

      I hope everyone had a wonderful celebration and many many reasons to give thanks. Blessings.

      almost 5 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar
      leepenn

      hey geekling - your posting is very interesting!!!! one thing i love about t-day is simply being able to EAT! we have been celebrating t-day with another vegan family for several years now, and it's so relaxing to simply be able to eat EVERYTHING brought to the table. when we do actually make the trek to spend the holiday with family, we have both the long drive and the bummer of a total mismatch in edibles.... but when we visit family OUTSIDE of a specific holiday, we are all more relaxed about everything, and we have MORE fun.... does that make sense? anyway... i hope everyone had a great holiday!!!!

      almost 5 years ago
    • janstar47's Avatar
      janstar47

      Gathering wasn't that large. And they came to our house. I wore a surgical mask once everybody arrived. I was exactly a week out from chemo treatment, so didn't dare not wear a mask. It's a little disconcerting to my little grandchildren, but it didn't have that big of impact. Nothing tasted right, so i can't judge on how the food Really tasted. Hope you all had a good day, and able to count your blessings. i'm halfway done with chemo phase. Next comes surgery and then radiation. one day at a time..... jantar47

      almost 5 years ago
    • Snooks' Avatar
      Snooks

      The first thing my Oncologist told me (upon meeting her for the first time) was to stay away from people in general while I was going through chemo. My next step was to fire her. You are right, you can't live in a bubble during treatment, but you must take steps to ward off the flu, colds and people who carry such ailments. My grandchildren were 4 and 2 at the time and there was no way I was going to stay away from them for five months. I wore masks when they (or anyone else) was around me, and I encouraged them to visit me in the hospital. Otherwise, I would have gone more crazier than I am!!!

      almost 5 years ago

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