Please read this months issue of Cure magazine on line..there is an article there on support. Also try and find a book "when life becomes precious" and try and pick up some publications from ACS on being the caregiver for someone with cancer.
I supported my sister and Mother through cancer and it about killed me. I think my cancer came from all the stress and grief I went though with them. I urge you to read some materials on coping as the caregiver and get yourself into a group for support for caregivers.
Your husband needs to come to terms with this on his own. You can only be there for him you cannot change him or the diagnosis. The best thing you can do for him is to keep yourself strong and educate yourself on support. And tell him you love him as often as possible.
Make time for yourself and get some distance to re charge.
Going to MD Anderson is an excellant idea and I wish you great luck and hope.
When I start feeling sorry for myself I think of the children fighting for their life with cancer. I see a St.Jude commercial and it puts me right out of it.
Life is a terminal illness. We were born to die. None of us get out of here alive.