• Baldy "Comes Out"

    Asked by Ydnar2xer on Friday, April 5, 2013

    Baldy "Comes Out"

    Today I tried on some clothes at the mall. I got hot in the dressing room, so I decided to take off my wig and go BALD through the store on my way out. Oh, it felt so much better! This was my first public appearance bald and I didn't know what to expect. It was an experiment of a sort.

    People either were nice to me (smiled back, said "hi") or they turned their heads away from me so they didn't have to look at me. I went to another store where 2 clerks were helping other women. The women left after about 10 minutes--but neither of the clerks ever asked if they could help me. Finally, an older woman came to me to help. For some reason, she put me in the handicapped dressing room, which was kind of funny--was she just being nice, or did she think my "condition" required it? Anyway, when I got home, I ratted the other 2 clerks out to their store headquarters. They probably didn't know any better, but come on!

    It was empowering to do that, and the results were very interesting

    17 Answers from the Community

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    • SueRae1's Avatar

      You done right, reporting them. I'm not why they didn't help you, I have had this issue in stores with a full set of hair. Many clerks just rather do anything then help a customer, they act as if they are doing you the worlds biggest favor when they answer your questions.

      Hey in some stores the handicap dressing room is the best one.

      over 7 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      Good for you!!!!

      over 7 years ago
    • ddkk3's Avatar

      You are very brave and inspirational! I'm still losing my hair but I've got lots of bald spots and not much hair left. Most days I say "today is when I'm going to have to start using hats everyday" but I haven't yet. I'm sure going wig-less was freeing!

      over 7 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      Love it!!! -- You are the best!! -- I am always inspired by your posts!
      I never actually "came out" but I did get sick of the wig and gave it up for my baseball cap which I even wore to Church. I was comfortable and at that point, I did not care what anyone thought. To be honest, no one paid much attention.
      Store clerks can often be selective in their service and it is not right. You did the right thing.
      Keep us updated on any future experiments.

      over 7 years ago
    • DianaL's Avatar

      Way to go!!!

      over 7 years ago
    • Kathy's Avatar

      I just can't go out bald but I did wear a scarf while recently being on a road trip. I was pleasantly surprised to not get any special treatments at the restaurants. For some reason it felt easier too knowing that I wouldn't run into anyone I knew.

      over 7 years ago
    • SusanK's Avatar

      You go, girl! Do what makes you feel comfortable.

      over 7 years ago
    • Julie99's Avatar

      Good for you!

      I forced myself to go out the night I shaved my head. My boyfriend shaved it, then we went out for dinner and did some shopping. It felt great and made things so much easier going forward. Most of the time now, I forget that I'm bald until any kids are near me. Then they innocently start staring at me which is how I end up remembering it. But I do take longer to get ready now, without hair, than before when I had hair. More time on the makeup and accessories!

      Surprisingly, I had a harder time going out with a wig then I did bald. I've done it 4 times now, over the past month and I only wear a hat when its cold or when I'm outside and covering my head. I'm always afraid that the wig will move, or that it looks "wiggy" or fake.

      Funniest part... the first time I wore a wig out was to the mall. I was SO nervous and insecure about it. I made my way to the makeup counter at the department store to buy my moisturizer. The first thing the sales clerk said to me? "I LOVE the color of your hair!" So much for being nervous, huh? :)

      over 7 years ago
    • Nonnie917's Avatar

      You had every right to rat those two b$%%%^s out. No one deserves to be treated differently just because they look different. Dumb witches. I would like to wear a wig, but they don't come in my color which is a silvery gray. Pretty too I might add, but you just can't get them in that color.

      over 7 years ago
    • mer1023's Avatar

      So proud of you! I work at an elementary school so I wore scarves when my hair fell out...it is just now coming in a little bit so I took a chance...got my courage up and went into work with only a slightly fuzzy head. They were surprised at first but now they comment on how my hair is growing.

      over 7 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      You go girl !!!!!!!

      Did she happen to scream in your face? I love that...I have cancer I am not deaf....Why do they scream so darn much..Many of us have tinitus and the last thing we need is the screaming in the face..Geez..

      Good for you..

      over 7 years ago
    • MillieS's Avatar

      I have always had problems with my head sweating when I covered it. Sometimes it would actually run down my forehead. I finally got brave and said xxx it. If they don't like the way I look, they don't have to look at me. Since then I have gone bald ( and now with fuzz ) and it is such a relief. I don't care whether or not I get looked at, I am comfortable and that is what matters. I've even had a few survivors come up to talk to me and give incouragement.

      So hold your head up and go forth. Remember, you so brave and so strong that a few rude people cannot break your stride.......hugs

      over 7 years ago
    • SandiD's Avatar

      Good for you! I never wore wigs because I hate anything on my head. I did chemo in the Winter so I wore warm, soft beanies when I was cold. I say get some pretty hoop earrings and rock it like you mean it! I did that as soon as it was warm enough. Hair grows back!

      over 7 years ago
    • alivenwell's Avatar

      Good for sticking up for your rights! It seems like our society accepts bald men more than bald women. Women have great pride in their hair and what colors they do to it. It's hardly a mind bending activity and they expose their lungs to toxic fumes and hair sprays. I refuse to oblige and 'conform'.

      over 7 years ago
    • GypsyJule's Avatar

      Awesome! I have had similar situations when shopping, because I always went bald, normally wearing a hat because of the weather. It's frustrating!

      over 7 years ago
    • sandikf's Avatar

      I am just now starting to go out uncovered. Hair is not quite an inch long and I don't like the way I look but getting too warm to wear anything. Never got around to getting a wig. Now it needs to hurry and get long enough to dye cuzz not used to this darkness (actually salt and pepper) don't mind the salt pepper too dark.

      over 7 years ago
    • msesq's Avatar

      I am getting a henna halo after I start chemo and intend to rock bald..you go girl! You are an inspiration to us all!

      about 6 years ago

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