• Behavior

    Asked by ConBir on Friday, February 12, 2016


    My husband is in stage 4 renal cell and has become a different person lately. Does anyone have experience with the patient treating his spouse awful?

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    • TXHills' Avatar

      He may have a really tough time processing his emotions and is taking it out on you. Would he attend counseling? Also, has he been assessed for brain mets? I don't want to scare you, but they can cause sudden and drastic personality changes, as well. You might want to let his doctor know. The doc can do some investigating and even suggest counseling. If he is like many men, he's more likely to go if the suggestion comes from the doc, rather than from you.

      almost 4 years ago
    • cllinda's Avatar

      My dad was just horrible towards the end of his fight. And he took it all out on my mom, like it was her fault that he had pancreatic cancer and was dying. And then he got real quiet and that was generally the end. Hospice came in on Friday and early Sunday morning, he was gone.

      I hope I didn't scare you by this but sometimes, this happens. Cancer Sucks!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Lorie's Avatar

      ConBir Just so sorry you have to go thru this. Remember, it's not the real him. He's sick and when I don't feel good, I get grumpy too.

      almost 4 years ago
    • MikeAnne's Avatar

      My husband was the same and my daughters tried to get him to be nicer to me. He became very dependent on me shortly before he passed and I lost him on 1/14/16 and, while it was tough while he was sick, I would give anything to have him in the room again with me. I am so glad he is out of pain which was excruciating for him, but I miss him terribly.

      almost 4 years ago

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