• Bowel Cancer

    Asked by mtnraindancer on Wednesday, September 19, 2018

    Bowel Cancer

    It seems I find myself here once again. The first time was seeking advice and comfort as the caregiver for my husband I lost in 2016. After waking up from a colonoscopy this morning, I was told a 5cmm fungating and malignant looking mass was found at my rectosigmoid junction. Biopsies were taken and I am waiting for a CT appt and an appt with the oncologist. The doctor told me he thought I was looking at radiation and chemo followed by surgery. No one can believe it, most of all ME. I'm not sure what I'm feeling at the moment. I am full of questions and I'm sure there will be lots more to follow once I get some results in. Any input or advice would be most welcome. My prayers have never stopped going out for all of you here during my husband's journey.

    7 Answers from the Community

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    • GregPWN's Avatar

      Sorry for your loss, and also sorry for your diagnosis. One thing to keep in mind, even the worst of colon cancer diagnoses are manageable. We have several on the site that were stage IV and told they only had xx months to live, and they are doing great today. Beating the odds! We wish you the best as you develop a plan of treatment with your doctors. Please keep checking in and asking whatever questions you may have. You might want to check on Ms. @JaneA she is a stage IV colon cancer survivor.

      9 months ago
    • carm's Avatar

      I am so sorry to hear that you might be facing another battle. I am an oncology nurse here so if you have any questions or if I can be of service to you in any way... Use me... I am here. All the best to you.

      9 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar

      I am so sorry that you are facing this. I am a Stage IV rectal cancer survivor. My tumor was lower, and I had chemo, then chemoradiation (radiation while taking a chemo pill, and then surgery. I had quite a bit of lymph node involvement and still had six positive lymph nodes so I also had mop-up chemo. But the good news is that after all of the treatment, I have been NED (No Evidence of Disease) for 3+ years.

      Please ask any questions once you learn more about your diagnosis. I'll be glad to help.

      9 months ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      We are here for you! Personally I can't answer specific questions on your diagnosis, but I'm sure there are plenty of people here who can. But lots of us with different diagnoses will be more than happy to help with general questions and support. Many hugs!

      9 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      I am so sorry to read this update, @mtnraindancer. I have a different cancer so can't offer any advice, but wanted to say (1) how sorry I am that you lost your husband and (2) that you might now be facing your own journey with cancer.

      Please know that we're all here for you. You are in my prayers.

      9 months ago
    • Jayne's Avatar

      Hi, I too lost my husband to rectal cancer and then was diagnosed with it myself. I did radiation, then chemo, then surgery, then more chemo. I had 4 reocurrences to my lungs at different times. After 10 years of this, I was declared No Evidence of Disease (NED), the holy grail of words to cancer patients, in 2017. I know how distraught you must feel and wish I had a magic answer, but it's a really tough situation (or as my brother says, a sh*t sandwich). In retrospect, I wish I had gone for some counseling - they should offer that right at your facility so it's easy and convenient. Sometimes we just need more support than we can muster on our own, especially with a double whammy like this. I compartmentalized things just to survive but boy, does it come back and haunt me at times! As others have said, hope is never lost....we just need some help finding it. Know that there are many caring and loving folks on this site, along with professionals such as Carm. Reach out and let us be your village who can help you get through this because you can! As my favorite saying goes: "in the midst of winter, i found there was, within me, an invincible summer." Also, you might try to connect with nature in some way - walking, hiking, sitting on a beach, it is a great healer and always gave me strength when I felt I had none. - J

      9 months ago
    • BeckyTice's Avatar

      Well, I'm sorry to hear you are joining our numbers. You are starting out ahead of most of us.... most of us didn't know a doctor they could trust. You've been working with a care team while caring with your husband... so that part of the puzzle is in place. Lucky you! AND you already have this website. A lot of us stumbled on to this site after being laid out by bad news... you are so lucky. Hey look... I know the news sucks... but you have the rest of your life to deal with sucky stuff.... today... count the couple things in you day that say you are lucky.... you have good team members and good information.... and we can't smack you if you cuss!

      8 months ago

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