• Bucket List

    Asked by ogtxaggiemom on Tuesday, February 5, 2013

    Bucket List

    You hear so many people talk about their bucket lists or the things they would do if they knew they were dying BUT no one ever says anything about what if you don't have the strength to do anything. I feel for my husband because there are so many things he loves doing and doesn't seem to be able to do them. The first day of deer season he went to the deer lease, he got a scratch on his leg and it took forever to heal so he never went again. He loves to fish but the sun really bothers him. Now the cold and flu season is so bad he doesn't go out in public much. He use to drive 400/500 miles a day with his sales job in the oilfield (and loved it and misses it so much) and now he doesn't drive himself to doctor appointments. We do spend time talking about all the wonderful things we have been able to do and laugh about all the adventures but I want to do so much more for him...any suggestions?

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I am sorry that he has no energy. I had little energy when I was going through chemo, so on days I felt pretty good, I did as much as I could. I paid for it by being extra fatigued the next day but I wanted to make sure I got out and did something when I could.

      over 3 years ago
    • carm's Avatar

      ogtxaggiemom, Can you believe it there are actually blog and support sites for the outdoorsman. I attached two links that have blogs and perhaps your husband can give his knowledge on the sport or share an experience with others. It might ignite something in him and it is a way of giving back to a community that he is still very much a part of. Hope these help and good luck, Carm


      over 3 years ago
    • nancyjac's Avatar

      Would he be able to enjoys those things, at least to some extent, vicariously? Does he have hunting and fishing buddies he keeps in touch with? Maybe some photos/video of deer hunting or fishing? Same thing for those he use to work with. Does he stay in touch with them, if not in person, by phone or email?

      over 3 years ago
    • Clyde's Avatar

      Carm and Nancy have some great ideas. The internet gives us so many more opportunities to be involved than life used to offer without the need to venture out. Get him a keyboard and let him fly.

      over 3 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      If you like to travel or vacation you my a cruise to get away. My wide and I have done two since my diagnosis and they are great as you can do as much or as little as you want and there are alway activities for people with limit on thier abiities. Also he might want to try some physical therapy to help regain his strength so he can do more. Good Luck

      over 3 years ago
    • ogtxaggiemom's Avatar

      Thank you all so much...I will add the three websites to his Ipad to favorites and maybe he will use his Ipad more lol. We did do a cruise a few years back and loved it, but he doesn't like the thought of being too far from doctors. We used to love to travel but any long rides in the car really make his back hurt due to the tumors in his liver. The doctor has now put him on a patch for pain and it helps with the pain but makes him a little unstable on his feet.

      over 3 years ago

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