• Cancer and Dating

    Asked by Nancebeth on Wednesday, January 23, 2013

    Cancer and Dating

    As a single woman facing getting back in the dating scene now that I am in remission, I was wondering what experiences others have had. I had one really bad experience with the reconstructed breasts when the guy I had been dating really got freaked out over them.
    I am also kind of unsure as to when to tell someone. I mean, my cancer can't really be hideen as I have reconstructed breasts that obviously don't look normal. On the one hand, I kind of feel like if I put it all out there in the beginning, he can decide if he wants to go further. If I wait til I really like someone and then tell him and he runs, I guess it would be more hurtful.
    Anyone else have experience with this?

    6 Answers from the Community

    6 answers
    • SMT4's Avatar
      SMT4

      I have always been open with guys about my cancer. I believe honesty is the best policy. If the man can't handle the warrior you don't need the wimp to bring down your living life with a positive attitude.

      about 4 years ago
    • FreeBird's Avatar
      FreeBird

      I have learned the hard way not to date cancers. Stick with Libras.

      Bring it up in conversation casually. If someone is put off by it, that's not someone you want to be with. They may not have enough experience with the stuff of life. If all they're looking for is a certain pair of boobs, they can probably have a pair custom-made to hang on their wall. They sell everything on the internet. Then they don't have to deal with everything else.

      about 4 years ago
    • FreeBird's Avatar
      FreeBird

      Then there's the option of saying nothing about cancer, and just tell them you're into body modifications and tattoos.

      about 4 years ago
    • debco148's Avatar
      debco148

      Nancy, you are a beautiful person.. I see you post Goodwill all the time. There will be a wonderful guy who sees this and won't run. First, get comfortable with yourself. Make yourself feel and look pretty. This will give you confidence. That will exude into your social world. Let people get to know you.. the real you. Once they do, this will come easy to talk about and perhaps you may mention it earlier on. You go girl!

      about 4 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar
      Nomadicme

      Hi Nancy, great question. What I love about it is that you're dating! I can't bring myself to do it. Do let me know what works best.
      I've jested with men about having 100% fake breasts, and the reactions seemed ok, but these were not men I was dating...

      about 4 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar
      Nomadicme

      I'm not sure thyroid s way would work with us girls that have funky tits after BC. Thyroid doesn't leave that sort of tell tale story.

      about 4 years ago

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