• Cancer Camaraderie

    Asked by Ydnar2xer on Monday, March 25, 2013

    Cancer Camaraderie

    This isn't a question--just wanted to relay a special moment another cancer patient and I shared today. I was at a restaurant and saw another woman with extremely short hair--obviously another cancer patient. I went over to her, pulled off my wig and said hello. Instantly, her eyes lit up and we smiled. It's so amazing how we both knew what trials and difficulty the other had been through--without saying a word. We chatted a few minutes and then went on our way. I'm not sure I'm explaining this right, but it was quite emotional for both of us. Somehow, I felt a lot stronger after that. And if I ever see another woman with extremely short hair--I'm not the shy type, obviously--but I would pull off my wig and talk to her again, in an instant. :-)

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    • karen1956's Avatar

      :) what an awesome thing to do :)

      over 5 years ago
    • SMT4's Avatar

      That is amazing!!! What a special thing to do. :o)

      over 5 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      The sisterhood is amazing -- I wish I had been that lady because I would have given you a big hug!

      over 5 years ago
    • MillieS's Avatar

      I can't wear wigs or scarves because my head sweats too much so I go baid onto the world. Occaisoinanallyi will have someone as outgoing as you stop me to say they too have/had cancer. I want to say that does give you a warm feeling. Keep on doing it.....it helps those of us that are not as outgoing as you. GOOD FOR YOU.......HUGS

      over 5 years ago
    • AlizaMLS's Avatar

      You are a very kind person to have made such a wonderful gesture of comraderie and you're to be commended and congratulated for both your generosity of spirit and your fearlessness in doing so!!

      I'm Aliza, a BC patient, and (Medical) Librarian. I do research and referrals for folks on this site and elsewhere. I'd like to recommend a book for you -I do for many people. It's called "Crazy Sexy Cancer Tips" by Kris Carr and Sherryl Crow. Kris Carr is a young woman who was diagnosed with an extremely rare form of cancer that's slow growing but was caught at Stage IV. She learned to live with Cancer as a chronic illness. And she did it with grace aand vivacity. She gathered a Cancer "Posse", a group of women near her who also had Cancer, but positive attitudes, she married, she grew her writing business.

      It would be a wonderful thing to be able to form a "Cancer Posse" of your own when you meet someone in that context if you want to, or a friend to have coffee with-just a thought...

      over 5 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      YD, you just gave me chills. Thanks for sharing.

      I once seen a lady in Sams with a buzz cut, I just happened to look up from the shelves and there she was, I instantly just said, "how many do you have left"? She smiled and said 3, I wished her luck, told her I had been there before and went on.

      Now when I see someone, I take the chance and make a comment to them about treatment. One day someone is going to say "what are you talking about"?

      over 5 years ago
    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      Pretty Cool!!

      over 5 years ago
    • leepenn's Avatar

      I love your story, and I've had a few similar encounters. I think it just makes for a better day for both people!

      Just a small word of caution. Sometimes women actually choose to have extremely short hair - just because.....

      over 5 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      What a wonderful thing to have done. I find that helping others also helps me.

      over 5 years ago
    • nonnie917's Avatar

      AlizaMLS. I see that you do research on this site. Is it possible for you to look something up for me that would be more complete and understandable than what I have found? I was suppose to be HER2@ positive and the research I did didn't look good. Is there another way to look this up and get the real meaning of [email redacted] be it positive or negative? Has me kind of scared a little because I can't make heads or tails of the explanations I get from the different sites. Thanks for your help.

      over 5 years ago
    • Bug's Avatar

      Very cool thing to do. Tears in the eyes again. I'm so grateful I found you people.

      over 5 years ago
    • SpunkyS's Avatar

      Wonderful. I was in a Starbucks in FL where the barista was wearing a wonderful scarf, and I was wearing a very short hairdo. I asked her if we had the same beautician. She looked at me and said Yes, Big C. We too shared lots in a few moments.

      over 5 years ago
    • Joachima's Avatar

      How amazing ...

      over 5 years ago
    • gwendolyn's Avatar

      Great story! Good for you!

      During the six months I was wearing a wig I was tempted to approach women I saw that appeared to have chemo baldness. I always held back because I feared offending anyone. I wish I'd found a clever way to approach them. (I love Spunky's "beautician" comment!)

      Now that I am walking around with obviously short post-chemo hair I will keep looking for options to help people feel better.

      over 5 years ago
    • Carol-Charlie's Avatar

      I have pulled my wig off many times. My friends are sometimes with me and now the joke is.... OMG here goes Carol's hair. But I know that I can do this and people will laugh.. I want them to laugh with me. I know the feeling you mentioned and you're right on... its an emotional momment for both. We both walk away smiling.

      over 5 years ago
    • carter4's Avatar

      good share ! hang in there !!

      over 5 years ago
    • Grandy's Avatar

      I came across loud and clear... Chills!!!!!! I'm so proud of you! Don't think I could be so brave as to pull my wig, but I would go up to someone! So kudos to you!!!!!!!

      over 5 years ago
    • Grandy's Avatar

      Not I came across... IT came across loud & clear!!!

      over 5 years ago

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