• Cancer spread to lung

    Asked by Susan254 on Monday, March 14, 2016

    Cancer spread to lung

    How do you figure out who to tell and when? I've always been the kind of person to open up and be honest with people. I can't talk to husband right now because when I first told him he said not to tell anyone because we aren't "sure." He's in denial, I guess. I don't blame him. This has been pretty hard on him. My mom is elderly and worries a lot. I'm raising an 18 year old grandson who just got his first job and is an A student in school---can't lean on him. And on and on.

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    • isnoop's Avatar
      isnoop

      Tell every person that you need support from. This is nothing to be ashamed of and by including people into your Journey, you will gain strength to fight this. You cannot do this alone, and need other people.

      over 3 years ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      Susan254, reaching out and asking this question is a good start, not easy to share news of cancer with anyone especially news of metastasis. When I was diagnosed my cancer had already metastasized. Those first few days only my husband and I knew. When we were both ready , we told our family members and friends, but at intervals, not all at once.Personally, I see no rush to tell family and friends your current medical status. Your doctor wants to keep an eye on the small growth on your lung for the time being. Give yourself this time for your husband and you to absorb, accept, and reenergize yourself. You will know when and to whom to share this news.

      over 3 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I started out from the beginning telling people I had cancer. But, we agreed to keep it upbeat (as if there is such a thing) for my mom. We made it sound like it wasn't all that bad. Fortunately for us, that's been the case, thanks to the fact that I got into a trial for immunotherapy and responded to it.

      over 3 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I hit send before I offered my condolences and to tell you that we're always here for you. It is so hard to know what to do when ... especially when you are considering the feelings and well-being of everyone else. Big hugs. Do remember to take care of your own needs while you are being so considerate of everyone else.

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Be honest when asked. Be factual if asked say the cancer has metastasized to my lung and my Dr. is watching it. Don't downp

      over 3 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Darn hit the wrong key. Don't downplay. If a person wishes to be in denial let them if that is the way they must process the facts.
      I will keep you in my prayers

      over 3 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar
      CAS1

      You need to get some support near you. Does the hospital have a social worker who might be able to help you find an upbeat group? Other folks you can relate to.

      Just remember its not what it was just a few years ago. Many things have come onto the market for therapy. Have hope and then live your life as you can.

      You cannot take on the burden of everyone else. Let the loved one's deal with it as they can and you deal with enjoying your life as you have it..Try not to get ahead of yourself but stay in the moment.

      over 3 years ago

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