• Cancer takes another one.

    Asked by GregP_WN on Monday, November 4, 2019

    Cancer takes another one.

    Our family lost another one to cancer. This time a cousin 42 years old. He had a rare type of peritoneal cancer that just couldn't be corraled. I talked to him at his initial diagnosis and he was upbeat and ready to do his battle. Throughout it we messaged often, I stopped to talk to him a couple more times. He was always positive and convinced he was going to come out on top. He told me several times that I inspired him. Now.....we talk about survivor's guilt here a lot. Can you imagine the guilt I had hugging his Dad and saying I'm sorry he didn't make it? His funeral will be tomorrow. It seems like our family has made far too many trips to the funeral home in the last few years.

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    • andreacha's Avatar

      Greg I am so very sorry for your cousin's passing. I know exactly how you feel - and it's pretty darn rotten. It's been 2 years now that I lost a dear friend to glioblastoma at 50. Like your cousin he was so determined and upbeat. I talked to him a couple of weeks before he died and he was struggling to talk. Broke my heart. We worked for several years for the same hotel management company. He was diagnosed in Palm Springs, CA and moved back home to MO to get treatment and be with his family. About 8-9 months ago a neighbor and good friend also passed from Glioblastoma. 43 years old with 3 children. She wasn't much for talking on the phone but we texted each other or emailed. I've saved each of them. She was doing quite well and then all of a sudden she was so ill. She asked her husband if she was dying and he had to tell her "yes" and he of course broke down. It was she who was trying to console him in the end. Last week a friend of my daughter's passed. She and her family were such good people. Heart attack at 39. It makes me sick when I hear of it happening. I know I upset my daughter when I say it but I truly feel that it should have been me. I'm 75 and lived a good life. Like you, I hate the guilt. And it's kind of ironic that the two friends with the glioblastoma had very few cases of cancer of any kind in their families. Prayers for you and your cousin's family.

      7 months ago
    • po18guy's Avatar

      Eternal rest grant unto him, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace, May the consolation of the Holy Spirit be with his family in this, their time of sorrow. Amen.

      7 months ago
    • beachbum5817's Avatar

      Greg, I am so sorry for the loss of your cousin. I hope that your memories will bring you some comfort.

      7 months ago
    • Gabba's Avatar

      So sorry for your loss...may happy times sustain you.

      7 months ago
    • Jayne's Avatar

      So very sorry to hear about your cousin, Greg. It can be awkward being the survivor when so many around us are falling. But you (we) give great inspiration at a time when people are so in need of something to hang on to. I guess that's our "gift" - whether it makes sense to us or not. Sincere condolences.

      7 months ago
    • Carool's Avatar

      Greg, I’m so sorry for your losses.

      Andreacha, I’m sorry for your loss, too.

      And I agree with Jayne that we as survivors are encouraging to others who are faced with similar illnesses.

      7 months ago
    • Dawsonsmom's Avatar

      Greg, i am so sorry to hear of your cousins passing. The survivor guilt is so difficult to deal with. My brother’s esophageal cancer has taken a bad turn and the prognosis is bleak. I feel helpless and am filled w guilt that while my cancer journey has not been easy, I am currently in NED stage and only wish he could get a break.

      7 months ago
    • JaneA's Avatar

      I am so sorry, Greg. But we, as survivors, must carry on and encourage others.

      7 months ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      I'm so sorry, Greg. Good thoughts winging to you and your family to try to help you get through these trying times. Virtual hugs!

      7 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar

      I am so sorry for your loss.

      7 months ago
    • cards7up's Avatar

      Sorry to hear Greg that your family has lost another member. Condolences to your family.
      Have you ever done genetic testing?

      7 months ago
    • NorthernSnowB's Avatar

      Sorry for your loss and I do think that I notice cancer seems to be everywhere. We've had several family members be diagnosed, some simple cases, but we have lost a couple too. I have been researching my family history to see how much cancer has been in the family

      7 months ago

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