• Caring for uncle who is getting worse VERY fast. Need advice/guidance on signs of the end & what to do, etc PLEASE HELP!

    Asked by Bryantmomma on Sunday, February 10, 2013

    Caring for uncle who is getting worse VERY fast. Need advice/guidance on signs of the end & what to do, etc PLEASE HELP!

    My is a 58 yo male. He was perfectly healthy as of 12/1/2012 nice toned muscles looked good for his age. He now is all boned & saggy skin. He has not been able to eat more than a couple bite at a time & throws it back up 60% of the time the drs just gave us a timeline of a couple months but I think it might be sooner. Since last night he has vomited everything he took in plus some. It has been very dark green almost black & grainy. He has been asleep 90% of the day/night since yesterday & is not able to even walk as of this evening. He had my husband put him in the wheelchair to go out side to drain his cath bag. His legs from the knees to toes are
    so swollen they are now leaking clear fluid. What is going on & what should I do I'm feeling very helpless!

    2 Answers from the Community

    • carm's Avatar
      carm

      Hi my name is Carm and I am an oncology/end of life nurse. It sounds like he has a bowel obstruction. If he is having bowel movements are they watery stools? He is third spacing fluid so he needs to keep those feetelevated and compression stockings. He also needs a diuretic to get rid of the excess fluid. These are not end of life signs. If it is coffee ground emesis or vomiting that looks like coffee grounds he might have a GI bleed somewhere. How is his color? Is he pale? Is his pulse fast or slow? I am going to send you my personal email. Contact me and I will send you my number in case you have any questions. Don't try to feed him anything but clear fluids. I'll send the email now, Carm RN.

      over 4 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar
      SueRae1

      Sounds like you should get your uncle to the ER ASAP. Contact his oncologist as well. As Carm mention these may not be caused my his cancer but other medical conditions. No matter what he should be seen my a medical team now.

      over 4 years ago

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