• Children after BC?

    Asked by Nomadicme on Wednesday, December 12, 2012

    Children after BC?

    I'm 42, never had kids, and I'm a bit bummed out about early menopause. I had a boss that got IVF at 50. Is that possible for someone that went into early menopause due to chemo?

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    • leepenn's Avatar

      difficult to say - but i kind of doubt it. i'm in early menopause too, and it sucks. fortunately, however, we were adopters... and we already had done that. if you want to adopt, some agencies will require that you are NED for several years before allowing you to adopt... good luck. sucks... doesn't it?

      almost 5 years ago
    • pll's Avatar
      pll (Best Answer!)

      I was 39 when diagnosed. I'd always hoped for children, never felt the timing was 'right'. for a long time I blamed cancer for "robbing" me of the chance to have children. Ultimately Iaccepted/realized that if I'd truly wanted children, I would have done something about a lot earlier than 39. As for your situation, it's hard to tell. If your bc was estrogen receptive, (as was mine) probably not a good idea. but the answer is something you, your oncologist, and your ob/gyn need to address as a team. there are women who had children after bc and live long healthy lives. good luck

      almost 5 years ago
    • MsScribe's Avatar

      Check with your oncologist but I agree with pll - if your cancer was ER positive then they will not advise pregnancy. Hormones are not your friend anymore. Please consider adoption - I'm adopted and i know many friends who have great families from adopting. Good luck :-)

      almost 5 years ago
    • Nomadicme's Avatar

      Intellectually I knew this site would provide me with people that "get" where my head is at, it's something else to have it emotionally confirmed. @pII, that's how I've been feeling lately, had I wanted children badly enough I would have tried earlier in life. It still hurts to be robbed of the choice ( and having a friend my age just give birth to a baby girl.... sigh)

      almost 5 years ago

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