• Dealing with Uncertainty

    Asked by SerenaH on Thursday, April 17, 2014

    Dealing with Uncertainty

    My mom thinks she's the only person in the world with incurable, terminal cancer. It's a terrible thing, I know, and I can't begin to understand what she's going through, but she feels very isolated and I need to know where to find support for her. An online group probably won't work for her because, although she has a computer, she doesn't type much, so it would be difficult.

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    • Gabba's Avatar
      Gabba

      I would suggest a sit-down with her oncologist, a referral to hospice (if she has been given 6 months or less) and a family support group for you... I doubt a support group at this stage is going to help her very much (although in the monthly support group I attend there are several women who have been coming for awhile now and are end-stage but still enjoy the friendship and support they receive). This is very difficult for both of you...you have my prayers. God bless you both.

      over 5 years ago
    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      Try the Amercan Cancer Society, or your local cancer center. They should have support groups, maybe not specific to her type of cancer, but somebody who understands. I took care of my mother for years, and although, I though I understood her, I didn't til I had cancer myself. Now, I understand her irrational fears. Her original cancer never came back (30 years), but later in life, she developed leukemia (10 years). She passed away last year, but not from cancer. .

      over 5 years ago
    • lilymadeline's Avatar
      lilymadeline

      If she is in hospice it might be too late for a support group, but I would at least look into it for her. But I would only suggest a support group for 'chronic cancer' or stage IV cancer patients. And try to get her friends to visit often or other relatives, or take her out to places that she enjoys. Anything to distract her from her cancer, it is terrible to be alone with cancer and it would be great if somehow you could get her away from it a little bit every day. Although I know that is a difficult thing to do! She is very lucky to have you, and I've been a caregiver and that is a very hard job so take care of yourself as well. Good luck and god bless!

      over 5 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      If she would talk to someone by phone Imerman's Angels is a great support by telephone group. They will assign her someone that understands her situation, usually someone that is now or has been in the same spot. www.imermanangels.org

      over 5 years ago
    • amontoya's Avatar
      amontoya

      My Mother in Law has an Imerman Angel and she LOVES it. This person has given her so much comfort. It's truly amazing.

      over 5 years ago

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