• deciding about whether or not to have mastectomy,double,single? How do you decide?

    Asked by tutuca67 on Sunday, July 15, 2012

    deciding about whether or not to have mastectomy,double,single? How do you decide?

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    • leepenn's Avatar

      i did bilateral with no reconstruction, and i'm delighted to be flat. i do, however, miss my nipples. i do not wear foobs nor bras... i just go as i am - flat. and, it's kind of awesome.

      this is such a personal decision. some women do not feel whole until they have reconstructed breasts. some feel whole without. some feel uncomfortable going out in public flat. some do not.

      like you, i had very dense breasts. i also had fibrocystic breast tissue, which basically means i was lumpy. i didn't want to end up with biopsy after biopsy after biopsy. i also could not deal with the idea of being lopsided. i know that assymmetry would have been very difficult for me to handle. so, with those three things, it was easy for me to choose bilateral mastectomy. add to that, i had chemo before surgery. that allowed me to have ample time to be sure i was comfortable with the decision. while i do wish i had never had cancer, i have no regrets about choosing bilateral mastectomy.

      good luck - i hope you are able to come to a clear decision - with peace.

      almost 9 years ago
    • nantse1's Avatar

      I also decided on bi. literally a day and a half before surgery. I spoke to all kinds of women that had to go through this and all answers were different. For me the deciding factor was what will it take for me to look in the mirror and like me. (my husband passed away suddenly 3 months before my diagnosis so it really was all about me).I couldn't bare the thought of looking at just one. It's hard enough having a cancer that you will always be reminded of every time you look in the mirror. I slept like a baby after I finally made my decision. I'm happy to report that my breast recon. is underway and have had no problems with the tissue expanders.(knock on wood...really!) The bump in my road was that the surgeon wouldn't let the recon. start when I had the mast. because she thought I would need radiation too. So it was also good news that I didn't need radiation just recon. had to be stalled til after chemo. So 6 months since diagnosis and I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you the best of luck and will keep you all in my prayers.

      almost 9 years ago
    • tutuca67's Avatar

      Well my meeting with my oncologist went well today,was my first visit and she put most of my worries to rest.Turns out I was getting ahead of myself and she explained to me my diagnosis and the pathology report..Have stage 1 and her negative ..so Will be going back in for re-insition to try to get clear margins...so we shall see what's next...thank you all for you stories and support! Helped me lots!

      almost 9 years ago

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