• dlbcl and pregnant

    Asked by Rlawson on Tuesday, November 19, 2013

    dlbcl and pregnant

    I found out I was pregnant the same day I met my oncologist for the 1st time... I am currently 6 weeks and still having test ran. Bone marrow looks good with no sign that my mass is affecting any other organs etc... I am 42 this is my first pregnancy and I don't want to terminate, but this seems to be the recommendation, so I can start treatment. Anyone , deal with this before? The mass is in my chest, pressing on my heart and lungs. Have ob appt in a few hours and am looking for hope...

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    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      I have not had this experience personally, and I can see why you would want to have your baby. But, you are only 6 weeks pregnant, which leaves 8 months for cancer to spread. That is a long time when you're talking about cancer. If you wait for treatment, you may be incurable or even untreatable. Please follow your doctor's advice as to what is best for both you and baby.

      almost 6 years ago
    • RachaelC@StF's Avatar
      RachaelC@StF Community Outreach Coordinator 317-528-7794

      I don't have personal experience in this but want you to know that I will keep you, your baby, your family and your decision in my prayers. I can't imagine how hard this decision must be for you. I'm wishing you lots of strength in both your decision making process and your cancer fighting journey. Please keep us updated. We are here for you.

      almost 6 years ago
    • avonlea02's Avatar
      avonlea02

      My heart breaks for your situation and the decisions you are facing. I so wish that I could offer some words that would help - something that could make any sense. There are none.

      I will keep you in my prayers, that you are guided to make the decisions that are best for you, your baby, your family. That you may be healed.

      Never lose hope! We do not know why things happen as they do. I have had three cancers in less than two years (two primaries, and one recurrence, which is why I'm back in chemo now). I have no idea why this had to happen! But I am determined to be as hopeful and joyful as I can. It is hard. Please do not be offended by my use of the word "joy" around your situation...it is not joyful at all.

      But please keep hope alive in your heart. It is so important to your healing!

      Linda

      almost 6 years ago
    • afuller43's Avatar
      afuller43

      I can relate to your dilemma. I was 11 weeks pregnant when I first found out I had stage 2 Non Hodgkins Lymphoma. My cancer was in the lymphnodes in my right under arm and was growing rapidly and very aggressive. The day after I found out I had cancer, I met with my oncologist in which he recommended that I terminate my pregnancy. I'm 38 years old and have a 5 year old daughter. We tried for almost a year to get pregnant with our 2nd child, and after finally having success on my first round of clomid we found out the great news that we were pregnant. Then my world fell from underneath me, when I was given my diagnosis and told I couldn't keep my baby, or risk my health and survival. I am pro-choice, but never in my life did I think I'd have to make that decision. I love my daughter so much and want nothing more than to be here for her as long as I can, and watch her grow up, graduate, get married, etc... I had to think of her and my husband. The oncologist said I could wait until I was 18 weeks along to start chemotherapy, but my cancer was growing very rapidly and he didn't want to risk it moving into my lungs. Chemotherapy is okay during pregnancy after 18 weeks, but I was in extreme pain, in which I was hospitalized for, and the risk of the chemo to the fetus was more than I could bare. If I felt bad for even taking Tylenol, how would I feel

      almost 6 years ago
    • afuller43's Avatar
      afuller43

      I guess I got cut off. Anyway, I feel for you in your situation. I was had to do the unimaginable, but in my heart I know my husband and I made the right decision. I've only gone through my first round of chemo, and my hair is almost all gone, but I know that I will fight as hard as I can for my 5 year old daughter and my husband. I know it's difficult, trust me I cry every day, but you should listen to your doctors, gather as much research as you can, and make a decision that your heart can one day accept. I know what your going through, and I'm here for you if you want to talk. You are in my prayers.- Angela

      almost 6 years ago
    • whumpy's Avatar
      whumpy

      I was reading through your post, I have been thinking about you and your situation all afternoon. I was just wondering how you are doing. I am 43 years old and recently diagnosed as well. (Within the last two weeks) Just the overwhelming feeling I had when I found out was a lot, I can not imagine how you are feeling with being pregnant also. Sending prayers your way. Keep in touch and let me know how you are. I would also be interested in knowing about your treatment, as I am currently trying to find a course of treatment myself.

      almost 6 years ago

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