• do any of you get so tired of feeling sick that it makes you unpleasant to be around? and has anyone brought that to your attention.

    Asked by Beaner54 on Monday, August 20, 2012

    do any of you get so tired of feeling sick that it makes you unpleasant to be around? and has anyone brought that to your attention.

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      I certainly got tired of the side effects with each round of chemo. When I am sick I don't really like to be around people anyway, so I haven't had anybody tell me I am unpleasant to be around, because I usually make sure that I am not around other people, or as little as possible.

      about 4 years ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      Most people should have enough sense to know your not going to be pleasant, and understand. So don't worry about it. But yes, I was pretty crabby and didn't have ANY patence. I would bite the head off any one that asked what I thought were stupid questions, but everyone understood., I felt bad after I would do it.

      about 4 years ago
    • Ivy's Avatar

      If you are being given paclitaxel (plus carboplatin), you may be disagreeable as a side effect of paclitaxel. I've done lots of research on the web, and there is a study that showed that a majority of patients show anxiety and depressive symptoms due to paclitaxol. (This was compared to patients being given different chemotherapy drugs.) The good news is that after 6 months or so, the differences in the 2 study groups went away, so it's not permanent. I enjoyed keeping in touch by phone with former co-workers/friends from the 30 years I worked at the same company, until I realized that my depressive responses were pretty negative. So I've sort of backed out of this type of communication until chemotherapy and more time has passed. If you are unpleasant to be around, in addition to the straight-up side effects of chemo, you may be having these other side effects that no one tells you to anticipate. Hang in, as this too will pass--thank goodness!

      about 4 years ago
    • TheEvilyn8's Avatar

      Honestly, yes I have heard this...from one of the most important people in my life, my spouse. The ROID rage, (steroids) along with all the chemo meds and just feeling down, made me a miserable person to be around. I wish I had been able to convey to him, in a positive way, what I was feeling. That did not happen. Instead we landed up in therapy because our marriage was in shambles and cancer just aggravated any old wounds. My suggestion, therapy, it helps heal us and anyone around us. At the least, it helps us understand that we are not crazy when we feel like punching walls and screaming at the top of our lungs. Good luck. FIGHTS ON>

      about 4 years ago
    • Moonflay's Avatar

      I think that this can be said of many situations, not just cancer. Some people react differently to being sick. My brother is unbearable to be around when he has a cold, lol. My mother is almost never sick but when she is...it's the most depressing time in the family. This is most likely due to our dependency on her to be "the mom" (even at 70 she is the ultimate matriarch).

      I'm a happy go lucky person by nature but there have been a few times during this cancer that I have heard a family member (mom most often) threaten "cancer won't get you because I'm going to kill you first". The smile and the humor are always apparent but it lets me know...enough already.

      When I'm truly feeling bad, the love and compassion is everywhere. There are times though..when I know I am being petty and churlish. I take my dissatisfaction out on someone close to me and it's not about the cancer, it's about me. Most times this is overlooked but now and then, it takes a loved one to say..woah!

      about 4 years ago

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