• Do you ever feel like a burden on your family?

    Asked by GoGoGadget on Monday, October 29, 2018

    Do you ever feel like a burden on your family?

    I know they will do whatever they need to in order to take care of me and get me to and from treatments, procedures, etc. But I just have this terrible thought of this getting worse and be being confined to the house or bed all the time and being dependent on them for everything. It's like a nightmare that won't leave me alone.

    4 Answers from the Community

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    • KB2013's Avatar
      KB2013

      Don't worry about it. If you are fortunate to have people helping you now, expect they are in it for the long haul. Not everyone has someone to help them and if tables were turned, wouldn't you be helping these same people because you care about them as they obviously do you?

      over 1 year ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      GoGoGadget, accept the love and support from family and friends , you are very fortunate to have those who will do “ whatever”. Too many survivors find themselves abandoned or in the company of uncaring caregivers. Your friends and family know that if the tables were turned, you would do “whatever”.

      over 1 year ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I dread that day, but maybe it won't come. Honestly, i hope i outlive my husband because he needs me to take care of him (right now) more than i currently need him to take care of me.

      I would think that if i get really bad and my husband is not here or can't take care of me, i would go to a nursing home so as not to be an undue burden on my son and daughter-in-law.

      @KB2013 is so right. Love means wanting to care for those they love. My husband requires quite a bit of help and after his heart surgery REALLY needed a lot of care ... and i did what i needed to do because i love him and i wouldn't think of not taking care of him.

      But, when i was diagnosed with lung cancer and was so sick from my treatments, he did the shopping and cooking and whatever I couldn't. He never complained a second. Truthfully, he flourished because it was the only time in our marriage that he felt like i truly needed him.

      over 1 year ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I had to have a fair amount of help when recovering from my last major surgery after the last diagnosis. I felt bad when I had to ask people to do things that I would normally do myself. They were happy to do whatever we needed, but still there's a feeling of being ashamed that you aren't capable of doing what you should be able to do normally. We hope you get all the support you need.

      over 1 year ago

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