• Do you feel like your Doctor is in a rush every time you see them?

    Asked by GregP_WN on Sunday, August 5, 2018

    Do you feel like your Doctor is in a rush every time you see them?

    Have you ever had one tell you that they had to "get moving" because they were behind schedule, or had other patients waiting? If so, did you agree and move along, or have you confronted a doctor and told them that you were the most important thing on his schedule right now? I've seen both, and I've mentioned that if they were too busy to see me that maybe I could lighten their patient load. My current oncologist is fantastic, the best we have ever had. She will sit and talk, answer questions, and allow us time to think of other things that we might need to know before saying that she will get "whatever is next" ready for me and then she leaves. It's a big contrast from some we have had.

    24 Answers from the Community

    24 answers
    • JaneA's Avatar
      JaneA

      I won't stay with with a doctor who "rushes" me. Between my insurance company and my copay, I am what keeps their practice in business. I expect to be treated with respect.

      My husband went to three orthopedic surgeons before he found one that listened to him and told him point blank that nothing would help his bone-on-bone knees but total knee replacement for both knees. He loves this surgeon.

      8 months ago
    • Julia468's Avatar
      Julia468

      My primary care physician is always in a rush. His schedule is so full, he cancelled my physical and they couldn't reschedule it for 6 months!! Likely for me, I was mad and saw the nurse practitioner. She is always patient, and extrodinarely through. That was the appointment my cancer was discovered. I doubt my primary would have ordered the chest x ray found it.

      My oncologist is wonderful. He always takes the time to listen.

      8 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My oncologist is sometimes in a hurry. He is overworked, for sure. His PA will visit for awhile, but the doctor is pretty rushed sometimes. However, I feel like if I ever need him to stop and visit with me, he will. I always have the opinion that I don't need him to spend much time with me - I'm doing fine ... he has patients that aren't doing fine. His time is better spent trying to help them.

      8 months ago
    • PaulineJ's Avatar
      PaulineJ

      Too many....I even had one that I only saw twice because she had other patients waiting and was walking out on me the first time I saw her.Second time she didn't see the lump anymore.I moved out so fast and the one I saw sent me to the surgeon within a week saw and things started rolling smoothly.

      8 months ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      I also have an issue with those practices that insist on you coming back to see them on a "more than needed" frequency. Like having to come back monthly when you really have nothing going on now. I understand we need to go back for regular check-ups, but when a doctor gives you some pills for something, not related to cancer, then wants us to come back monthly. Then those visits amount to nothing more than checking you off the list so they can bill the insurance company,

      8 months ago
    • cheryncp's Avatar
      cheryncp

      With my old doctor I did but I changed doctors and my new doctor does not make me feel that way at all.

      8 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I like my Dr. to be efficent. I am paying for his time but it is also my time. I always ask what time-frame is my appointment. If it is a 20 minute I expect to walk out of the office in 20 minutes. I expect the doctor have everything prepared for the visit I know that I am paying for more than the 15 minutes the Dr. sees me. I often have things scheduled after the appointment, like lunch with friends or Bible Study. Besides I sitting in the Dr.s office is really not the most pleasant of venues. Frankly I like to be in on time and OUT on time. Also if we can get things done a little quicker then that's OK too.

      8 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      My doctors definitely do not request to see you too much. Once I was off trial, my oncologist started seeing me only every other month, even though I have treatments and blood tests once a month. I was on a quarterly CT scan schedule which messed up seeing the doctor only once every other month so we switched the scans to once every 4 months.

      My radiation oncologist told me at my last visit - hope to not see you again for at least another 5 years ... he did no follow-up, nothing. He turned me back to my medical oncologist, requested that we do several scans of the area that was radiated to be sure the tumor was gone and that was it. I was surprised he didn't want to follow up but it is nice that I didn't have to see a bunch of doctors.

      8 months ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      My oncologist is great. He is rarely on time but I don’t mind, because I know when he is with me he will take all the time I need. He never makes me feel like he needs to hurry because he is behind. Sometimes the nurses and others will apologize for him running late and I alway say no problem. I am sure there was someone who needed him and I know when I need him he will be there too.

      7 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      @SandiA, my oncologist and every doctor at my hospital run close to on time. If they don't, they are very apologetic. But, my primary care doctor runs as much as an hour behind. But, like your doctor, she takes as much time as she needs with every patient. She's the one who found my cancer because she is so thorough. I get impatient sometimes because I don't just sit well, but I don't resent or get mad about the delay because I know when she finally gets to me, her full attention will be on me and not on anything else.

      (The last time I saw my PCP, I had gone with my husband for an appointment he had with her. She walked in, chatted with him a moment and then saw me sitting there. She immediately started crying big alligator tears and had to sit down because she was so happy to see me there and doing so well. That was probably 3 or 4 years ago. She's absolutely awesome!!)

      7 months ago
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      @LiveWithCancer that’s great to have a doctor that cares that much.
      it’s funny the last time I saw my oncologist he was on time. Probably only the second time in four years. I was stunned. I am sure it was because I came in a little early and he probably had a no show so I just got lucky. What was funny is his nurse came in after and said he is running so far behind. She was new and I didn’t say a thing but I wanted to bust out laughing. But I know he has met me there on a Saturday morning and fit me in several times. He has also run down to infusion a couple times when I was having a hard time so I know there were others in the waiting room waiting when he dropped everything to help me so when he is late I picture him dropping everything to help someone else.

      7 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I guess I am the one who is impatient with the Dr. I feel that if she/he can't tell me what is wrong and what remedies I need to take in 15 minutes he/she is inefficient. My last appointment with my PCP was for a half hour the receptionist told me that the Dr. had scheduled more time for the appointment because there were complications she wanted to discuss with me. I prepared some questions and she was well prepared so the session lasted only 20 minutes. And I had complicated things with an additional fall. Now thats what I call efficiency.

      7 months ago
    • Moni's Avatar
      Moni

      I've always felt my doctors were in a hurry but not my Oncologist who oversees my chemotherapy. My first appointment with him before I started was an hour and he answered all my questions and then some. I now see him every 3 weeks and the appointment is for 20 minutes but I never feel rushed with him. I feel very blessed to have him. I'm with Kaiser and this has not been my experience with Kaiser doctors in the past.

      7 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I have an amusing story. At my initial appointment with the Brain Injury Dr, She noticed my watching the clock. She said to me "I have only one more test, I'll get you out of here on time" I think it is I who is rushing the appointment.

      7 months ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      When I was trying to decide to go with radiation against my medical oncologist's advice, his nurse practitioner sat with me for at least an hour while I chewed on the pluses and minuses of going with radiation. Not once did I feel rushed to shut up and go on. And, always, she has been the most supportive person of my decisions. Some other patients were no doubt kept waiting, but I appreciated her spending so much time with me more than I can say.

      I hadn't seen her in a few visits until my last visit. When she walked in, my eyes filled up with tears. I was so happy to see her. I love my oncologist, but I love Sharon, too!!

      7 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      BoiseB, we need to change your name to Ms Feisty!! I've never heard of anyone watching the clock DURING their doctor's appointment!!

      Seriously my doctors are on a tight schedule, but willing to spend extra time with me when needed for extra problems. I appreciate that a lot, so if they run late, I respect the fact that they were helping somebody else who had extra problems. (After all, we're talking about patients with cancer, some who could be at the end.)

      An example was when I thought I was having a routine CT scan and appointment, but the CT showed multiple pulmonary blood clots. My doctor walked to Radiology to see and discuss it with the radiologist, etc., etc.

      To Greg and others, regarding doctors rushing, I very much value longevity in my relationship with my doctors, especially as I get older. I want my doctor to know who I am if I call, and also if I say or do something that sounds weird to the office staff, the doctor will give me the benefit of the doubt. If I really need to complain about something, I've done that with my doctor, and he invited me to email him directly if I need to. So there is a value to hanging around and being open.

      If a doctor hurries with me, I just keep asking my questions until I'm finished, rather than let them leave!

      Don't worry, Greg, doctors bill according to the length of the appointment! If it's brief, they don't get as much. If I were you, I would ask a doctor why I was going monthly if he isn't doing bloodwork or anything to check you. He could have a good reason, such as some patients mention they don't want to call their doctors with problems, and they want to wait until an appointment.

      7 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Barbara, I feel that my time is valuable. If I have to sit in the waiting room or examination room for extra time, I feel that the Dr. should be extra quick with me. You bet I watch the clock. I did not know that Dr.s were only paid for the time spent with patient I thought they were also paid for the time to prep for the appointment which I would think is probably more than the time they need to see the patient.

      7 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      No, I haven't known a doctor who prepped for appointments, unless you mean maybe looking for a clinical trial, and their office people probably do that. A doctor's prep was studying for years to be an expert, reading journals, and staying informed of the latest scientific information for their specialty. Charge sheets show several lengths of time they can choose for how much time they spent with you, unless things have changed since I retired.

      When you say you want them to be extra quick with you if you wait a long time, that means you are losing important time you've paid for and you could be benefitting from talking to the doctor. Maybe you should allow more time before your next activity, so the doctor appointment can be your priority that day.

      Physicals once a year can be much longer than a regular appointment paid for by Medicare, because they're supposed to do extra things in a physical. When I don't have problems to talk about, I use the extra time to ask about stuff we always wonder about, like sleep, weight, or whatever. To me it's a treat to pick their brains and learn things. LOL

      7 months ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      I know my Dr.s come prepared because they don't just sit in my appointment and look at x-rays and blood work plus any other tests I have. My Dr. tell me what the results are. What referrals they want to make and additional testing. One time the Dr. walked in to my 10:30 appointment and said I have scheduled You for an ultra sound at imaging at 12:30. I said No Way I have Bible Study at 1 pm and I want to catch a lunch. We scheduled it for later that week. I missed lunch because of the extra time spent scheduling. This is really ironic that when this question popped up I was going to post a similar question I was going to ask "Does it bother you when your Dr. keeps you longer that your scheduled appointment time?"

      7 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      Hey, BoiseB!
      Radiologists read the X-rays and send signed reports, so it only takes a minute to look if the specialist wants to verify. Blood work results usually have a High or Low result marked with the normal range beside it, so a glance is all it needs. Your doctor apparently told somebody to schedule you for recommended X-rays, but like you I prefer to tell them when I'm available.

      I don't like to be rushed getting ready, so prefer afternoon appointments. When I get in a hurry, my heart beats too fast, so I also don't schedule anything after the doctor appointment, so I'm flexible to go to the lab or whatever comes up.

      I think you should still ask your question to WhatNext. It will be interesting to find out, don't you think?! Best wishes

      7 months ago
    • Ilovemydoc's Avatar
      Ilovemydoc

      My gynecologic oncologist will spend as much time as it takes to examine me and ask and answer all of my questions. He even gives out his private email address and phone number. Got to love him :) My PCP is never in a hurry either, not is my Neurologist. So I am lucky.I would make a doctor slow down if they were!

      7 months ago
    • c1a1c1's Avatar
      c1a1c1

      A friend with breast cancer was at her gyno office and became a bit tearful. Upon getting ready to leave, the dr told her, "Don't take too long, i need the room."

      7 months ago
    • BarbarainBham's Avatar
      BarbarainBham

      c1a1c1, that takes the cake!! The least he could've done is suggested she go to his office (or whereever) for some privacy!

      7 months ago
    • petieagnor's Avatar
      petieagnor

      I agree with the majority of you. Since my chemo treatment is 2 weeks on & 1 week off, I sometimes see other oncologists, the PA or NPRN when my oncologist has hospital rounds. I always take in my questions so the Dr. doesn't play 20 questions on how well I'm doing. I try to stay on top of things. She doesn't give too much idle information due to my anxiety. I just get overwhelmed. My doctors communicate with each other so I know everyone is on the same page with my care. I feel blessed this time around.

      5 months ago

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