• Do you feel overwhelmed?

    Asked by jdcarolina on Saturday, June 1, 2013

    Do you feel overwhelmed?

    Do you every feel overwhelmed?People ask you how are you and what do you say. I am my limit, I don't feel I can take any more but what choice do I have its not like I can leave or stop caring or doing. I feel guilty for feeling this way and I am not even the patient. I would love to be able to go to bed and sleep for a week with no responsibilities to attend to or worry about.

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    • GregP_WN's Avatar

      This is a common question, and feeling from caregivers, the question right above yours on the page deals with caregiver problems. We have a great caregiver/author on the site that contributes to our blog. Rob Harris, of RobCares. Read through our blog here www.whatnext.com/blog and you will find some of his articles on being a caregiver, and caring for yourself. You can't get burned out or you will be not as effective. It's a balancing act and it's tough. Others will have some help for you. Two on the site that are caregivers are @FreeBird and @tatianna you might drop on their pages and chat.

      over 4 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Lots and lots of hugs, you are not alone. I know my DH feels overwhelmed, sometimes even more then I do. We have discussed this togehter and with our marriage counselor on many occasions.

      My sisters and I were caregivers for both our parents in during their final illnesses, and I still remember the feelings of frustration, being overwhelmed, resentment and exhaustion. Do not feel guilty, feeling are feelings, and acknowledging them is healthy.

      over 4 years ago
    • Nancebeth's Avatar

      I am alone most of the time and get overwhelmed a lot. Luckily I have a great support system of friends who help me when I need it. I just had to learn to ask.

      over 4 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar


      You tell people you are overwhelmed. Some one or more of them may know a way to assist or even offer you a short respite so you can do something completely for yourself which can only also benefit your charge.

      The I want to sleep for a week syndrome is your own health disintegrating. You can't let that happen. Try 20 minute cat naps and 30 minute walks or swims or whatever it takes to have you to feel a little better.

      Guilt is heavy and useless. Put it down as it is too much to carry.

      Best wishes

      over 4 years ago
    • Tracy's Avatar

      This is a very normal feeling, it helps to acknowledge it and tell people. If people ask how they can help, have a list of tasks or chores that really can help. (bring dinner, do laundry, clean the house or have movie night so you can have a night off...) the ones who really want to help will be happy to have a specific task to do.
      When I have been in a caregiving position I would go for walks, the time alone helps me clarify my thoughts. Do not ever feel guilty - you are already doing the superhuman by taking this load in the first place. You need some alone time to process what is happening. I think that caregivers have the toughest jobs. The patients are forced into this, but caregivers choose it. Tracy

      over 4 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      Please ask for help so you can get away and rest and re charge. You must take care of yourself or you will get sick also and that won't help anyone. You need to ask for help and get a weekend or more off and just chill or do what helps you to unwind and take a break.

      over 4 years ago
    • Zzchap's Avatar

      I am in the same boat....I'm the only one fighting this battle. My husband has given up. I'm angry, that it's all on my shoulders and I truly have little to no support. We have three small girls and it's a daily struggle to wait on him hand and foot, keep up with the girls and school and all of the normal daily tasks.......yard work, home maintenance, finances. I am overwhelmed to say the very least! Many days I just literally want to throw in the towel...Get on a plane and get as far away as possible....but that's a fantasy.

      over 4 years ago
    • ChathamGal's Avatar

      My best friend was just diagnosed and I understand about your feeling overwhelmed. We have to stick in there and most importantly, ask others for help. Do you have friends, neighbors or volunteers in the area who could give you a few hours to yourself? There is no way you can get a week although I'm sure it sounds like it would be good, you'd actually miss too much of what's going on and may have to re-experience a lot of these crazy emotions. Hang in there and look for some local help or ask friends. I bet you'd be surprised by the outpouring of support you'll get. Wishing you peace and comfort!!

      over 4 years ago

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