• Do you keep your cancer to yourself or do you wear it on your sleeve?

    Asked by Bloodproblems on Thursday, February 13, 2020

    Do you keep your cancer to yourself or do you wear it on your sleeve?

    I am happy to talk to anyone that wants to talk to me about it, but I don't spread it freely. I just feel funny talking about it still. Does it bother you to talk about it?

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    • Bengal's Avatar
      Bengal

      I kept it to myself and closest family at first; until I had time to process the diagnosis myself (still not sure I've successfully done that. I'm almost three years out). I don't advertise it but I've learned not to flinch every time I hear the word "cancer" and I will talk about it if anyone wants that conversation.

      4 days ago
    • Created07's Avatar
      Created07

      I didn't talk about the first three much. The first one, endometrial, is a very private one. Thank goodness for 'What Next' because I have never felt so alone. The next one, breast, has a whole sisterhood. But still it was mostly between the 'sisters', family and 'this' family. The last 'non-hodgkins', the hair was gone. My sweet son-in-law bought me a lovely (expensive) wig. When I wore it out, people would look, turn and whisper. While in the hospital the first time, a precious little nurse ordered me a $20.00 pale pink bob. That changed Everything. everywhere I went it opened conversations. That was wonderful. I had no idea how many cancer patients were hungry just to be able to talk to someone who understood. Each one now knows about one of my greatest blessings....What Next. Oh, I said the first three. The third one was found by my plastic surgeon and cut out by my dermatologist..malignant melanoma...end of story:)

      3 days ago
    • MiriamMarino's Avatar
      MiriamMarino

      When I speak with my family and friends, I tell them I don't wish to speak about my cancer and the treatment for it, and that I wish to hear about what's happening in their life.

      about 8 hours ago

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