MelMom, it sounds to me like you are having some communication problems with your Dr. That is not really that unusual as Drs are not often well trained in communication. I have had to train a few in my 9 year journey. To each of us that are patients no matter how well or bad things are going right now our cases are serious and it can hurt to have a Dr blow you off. While they may not mean it to sound or be that way it happens much more than it should
I would start by talking to the Dr and letting him know about how he made you feel. He may not be aware of that. Looking for a new Dr or at least a 2nd opinion is also a reasonable step. It can start out as a 2nd opinion but if you "click" with the new Dr then it might be worth switching. From my experience the relationship you have with your DRs is very important. You need to be able to trust them with your life, literally. And you want one that you can communicate within a way that you can understand everything they tell you. You can start by doing some research on Drs in your area. I see your from Ann Arbor so that probably means U of M med school is a place to start. Look for Drs that specialize in your cancer and research it as they will now the most about the latest treatments, but also look for ones that treat a lot of patients and try and emphasize patient care. You might ask a couple of the people here on WhatNext that are associated with U of M or are from your area to make a recommendation as that can always help to find the right kind of Dr. Good Luck and let us know if there is anything else we can help with.