• Does everyone want to know "everything"? It's like I want it a bit shaded, not to be told "nothing more we can do"

    Asked by Keephopealive on Monday, January 9, 2012

    Does everyone want to know "everything"? It's like I want it a bit shaded, not to be told "nothing more we can do"

    I just want to keep moving forward, since this chemo didn't work, then on to plan B. I want to know there is always hope. Do we live in fear always? I have tried not to although this is my 3rd time dealing with cancer...12 years ago being the first. Very positive person but getting tired..as I can't drive my car anymore hopefully temporary.

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    • lovingspouse's Avatar

      We're stage IV breast cancer and we've had 4 chemos that didn't work. We just started a new one yesterday and each time we start a new one, we have hope. We are also in the very beginning of trying, as experimental, metformin which has had some promising results in shrinking tumors and preventing cancer cell growth. (see "metformin--achilles heel of cancer"). We always look for the cure. (see UK vaccine in conjunction with Mayo Clinic and U of Georgia to begin clinical trials in 2013, especially helpful to us as brca 2, triple negative.) My wife can't drive anymore either. She put 300 miles on her car in 2010. But, it sure is good having her here with me. Please hang in there.

      almost 5 years ago
    • carolk2222's Avatar

      I have been cancer free for 30 yrs but now have discovered the muscle deterioration and pain going on in my neck, shoulders and back is from the radiation I had all those years ago! you can't get muscle back. But I am kind of like you not wanting to hear this is it, that there is nothing that can be done. It doesn't seem fair does it? Wev'e paid our price already with this cancer! I don't want to give up hope! I know you don't either! How can this be the rest of our life? I just turned 54 and should have some good years! I understand where you are coming from. Without some kind of hope how can you live your life? All I know is I can't do it without God and a hope for an eternity with a new body whenever that time might come.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Keephopealive's Avatar

      I am in a waiting period to see if Arimidex shrinks the cancer. Dr. said if one chemo doesn't work, sometimes, others don't. Thanks for info on metformin, will tell him. Seems like I have to keep on the dr...
      I am a very enthusiastic, love life kind of person and hanging in there but it gets tiring. thanks for sharing.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Reeses' Avatar

      I was just diagnosed this month. Things are very complicated due to also having Crohn's disease and over 20 surgeries for that. Surgery to remove the cancer could be very risky and VERY possibly not even successful. Before I was diagnosed I had been feeling a bit run down, but nothing I couldn't deal with. Now that I know I have Cancer I suddenly feel like XXX. It's like I was given permission or an excuse to not feel up to par. So, NO I don't want to know everything. If we decide not to do the surgery, I don't want Chemo or Radiation either. I am sick of being in the hospital. I'm not afraid of dying. But I don't want to spend the rest of my time in the hospital or laying around the house feeling crappy and sorry for myself. I just want nature to take it's course and I don't want anyone predicting how much longer I have to live. One Day At A Time!

      about 4 years ago

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