• Does Life At Some Point Feel Normal?

    Asked by TaraMac on Sunday, May 19, 2013

    Does Life At Some Point Feel Normal?

    I know that my diagnosis is very new but does normalcy eventually come back to your life.

    11 Answers from the Community

    11 answers
    • SpunkyS's Avatar

      Yes! It may be different than what you know it as now, but normalacy does return. Some day you may even forget you have cancer (but don't worrry, it will always be lurking in the mind of someone else. )

      over 4 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      Normal may be relative once you have had cancer. There will always be the though that it may return in your mind and the regular screening you will get so normal may be a little different than it was. That being said, after treatment is over you should be able to return to your previous life with few if any changes. Good Luck!!!

      over 4 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      Yes it does..A new normal perhaps but you will get to a place of peace.
      I feel I was in a trace for the last year while i was in treatment. I am just comming out of it now after 15 months since my DX.

      Take it slow and just stay in the moment..

      over 4 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Yes, but it's a "new normal". You learn how to manage your energy, appointments treatments etc, come to terms with new limits you may have on what you can and can't do. You will have good days and bad days, just like always.

      Good luck and healing vibes.

      over 4 years ago
    • RobbieFlores' Avatar

      With a little effort , YES! I tried to make sure I had my "normal" times . Of course with treatment that was my main concern, to follow my doctors orders and be the best patient I could be. But you need to make time and take that time to do the things that you always did and break up the monotony of treatment. My last chemo session is this Wed. and then I will be able to actually get back to normal! Yay! Good luck . Stay Strong. You're not alone :0)

      over 4 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      After treatment, you will phase out of the "twilight zone" of the cancer world back into the real world where your family and friends are. Normal will not be the same for you because you will never be the same person that you were before but that is not a bad thing. Flowers and sunsets will be more beautiful -- family and loved ones will be more precious -- you will find a new compassion for others who are enduring sickness and hardship. Basically, you will take time to enjoy all that life has to offer. I wish you the best!!

      over 4 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      As others have said, you do establish a new normal. And it does get better. Yes, you might have lingering side effects. I still have occasional chemo brain & fatigue, and I'm hoping the peripheral neuropathy goes away. But it's just like learning to live w/other changes that happen as we age. I hope things get better for you soon.

      over 4 years ago
    • ElizaM's Avatar

      If I've learned one thing during this interesting roller coaster called "life" is that change is constant, and there is actually no such thing as "normal". This is our new normal, just as is financial upsets, job changes, marriage difficulties, the curves our children throw us, etc. I think acceptance of "what is" is vital to our well being, we can only go with the flow of things, otherwise we "fight" to get things back to the way things were and where we felt comfortable and "at home". That isn't the way life brings us the challenges we need to grow with. I know none of us feel we "asked" for this soul-rocking challenge, but as some level we all need it to take a really in depth look at ourselves and how we somehow brought this to ourselves, and/or need to move forwards. Maybe it's to develop empathy, understanding, to walk a mile in the shoes of someone else, learn to advocate for ourselves, . . . whatever the direction we will all grow into newness. I hope all that makes sense and I wish you well in your adjustment to your new reality, as I do all of us.

      over 4 years ago
    • LauraJo's Avatar

      Yes, indeed it does, even though it may not seem like that is possible now. You may be someone like me, who has minimal issues, or you may end up with other problems, but i sense that you will learn to work with whatever you are given. None of us is guaranteed an uneventful life well into old age, and as I see my friends aging & having on-going health issues, quite frankly, what happened to me pales in comparison. We refer to this as a journey for a reason. God only gives us what we have the strength to handle. (but there are days when I wish He didn't have such a high opinion of my capabilites.)

      over 4 years ago
    • Okiegrandma's Avatar

      Don't quit living your life. Go and do whatever you have the energy for. I have discovered my illness can get me out of a lot of things I don't want to do. Normal is a relative term. As a friend of mine frequently says,"no change is for the better. And
      Everything changes". That is rather pessimistic but often true. The big question is how we respond to big changes. Don't get in the victim mode. You are a person who just happens to have caner, not a cancer victim. I will probably be on chemo from now on. Going for treatment every two weeks, blood tests and ct scans are now normal and routine . Yesterday we had a big tornado in Oklahoma. I surely don't want to trade places with the folks who lost children and homes.
      I frequently see folks who are so much worse off than I am with my stage 4 colon cancer. I find myself thankful I can handle what God gas given me.

      over 4 years ago
    • Khoffart's Avatar

      Yes it does but will be a new normal. I am still waiting to get adjusted but am heading in theright direction.

      over 4 years ago

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