• dose any one fell this way

    Asked by katiemom on Friday, December 12, 2014

    dose any one fell this way

    I just want to set and cry all the time

    11 Answers from the Community

    11 answers
    • SandiA's Avatar
      SandiA

      I was struggling when I was first diagnosed. I was at a doctors appointment with my sister and burst into tears and she asked the doctor if he could give me something. I ended up on Zoloft which is mainly for anxiety but it has really helped. Also starting treatment helped a lot too. I am not sure where are in treatment, but I wish you all the best and keep reaching out here. There are some great people on this site that have helped me a lot.

      almost 5 years ago
    • rwhdesmoines' Avatar
      rwhdesmoines

      I have times that I want to cry but not all the time. I hate that you have to deal with feeling this bad all the time If you don't have a counselor to talk to that you feel comfortable with and supported by I hope that you can find one. I am blessed with a wonderful counselor to talk to and I feel very fortunate to have this person in my life. I hope that you come up with a plan that will help you start feeling a little better soon. Please don't give up on trying to feel better.

      almost 5 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Have you spoken with your doctor about anti-depressants? They might help you get control of your emotions.

      almost 5 years ago
    • ritafaystageIV's Avatar
      ritafaystageIV

      Many of us know the feeling. A lot of us are on antidepressants, and as rwhdesmoines said, many use counselors. Blessings for finding what works for you.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      Had same experience as sandiA, when first diagnosed would cry whenever I discussed my diagnosis.My primary physican put me on Zoloft,I was skeptical, did not really consider myself needing an antidepressant. the medication has helped. I have finished chemo and am currently in remission.Recently had the antidepressant dosage reduced but continue taking it. I now feel the antidepressant has been an effective weapon in helping me fight this xxx disease.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Jalemans' Avatar
      Jalemans

      I was fine emotionally/mentally from my diagnosis to my surgery to my treatments. When we had to stop chemo & I wasn't DOING anything but waiting for the next bad thing, I started to be on edge & weepy all the time. It got very bad to the point that I felt overwhelmed & hopeless. I started having anxiety attacks but I didn't know what it was. I would wake up throughout the night. I sought help & after several weeks on anti-depressants I am happy to say I feel more like myself. I wish I would have sought help sooner. I am not telling you what to do, just food for thought.

      almost 5 years ago
    • Sherman8tor's Avatar
      Sherman8tor

      I'm only recently diagnosed. My doctor gave me Xanax for anxiety, and that has helped a lot. I only take it when I start to feel overwhelmed. I will ask about antidepressants.

      A good counselor sounds like a great idea, and the hospital I use has a weekly cancer support group that I plan to start attending. And of course there's family and friends. :)

      Good luck and hang in there!

      almost 5 years ago
    • lilymadeline's Avatar
      lilymadeline

      I have felt that way, and when I was first diagnosed I could not stop crying! I just cried and cried for months and months, I never seemed to run out of tears. :-(
      They say that 70% of cancer patients are clinically depressed and I know that I was so I asked for help and I got it, and I strongly suggest that you go on antidepressants as well. At least try them! What is more legitimately depressing than a cancer diagnosis? I was never depressed before, but I was definitely depressed once I was in cancer treatments. I think that chemo is a depressing drug as well, at least I suspect that although I haven’t read anything about it being a depressant it really does seem to be one and many other cancer treatments seem to cause depression.
      And just so you know- I did have to try a few different antidepressants until I found the right one. So please don’t be discouraged if the firsts few ones that you try don’t work for you, please just keep trying like I did! I’m on Lexapro now without any side effects and it really does help me deal with everything that I have to deal with.
      And one more tip- if you are in treatment at a cancer center they may have a psychiatrist there to help. My cancer center has one at least and he has helped me tremendously with the medications and therapy as well. I really take advantage of everything my cancer center has to offer but I did find out that my oncologist wasn’t as good with the depression medications as the psychiatrist was. Just saying that. Although oncologist should be familiar and I know that mine could have handled my depression, still I felt I was in better hands with a psychiatrist. And I have never needed therapy before, but I do now and it definitely helps me live with stage IV breast cancer.
      Good luck to you and I hope that you get help soon!!! God bless!!! Hugs!!!

      almost 5 years ago
    • Ellie59's Avatar
      Ellie59

      Therapy helps tremendously at least for me. A good antdepressant helps to.
      Do what you need to do to have quality of life. You don't need a I suffer with this depression. Your body and mind is going through enough right now.
      Let us know how your doing?
      Ellie

      almost 5 years ago
    • sbradford1013's Avatar
      sbradford1013

      I cry everyday on the drive home from work. It is 30 min and it is my time to let it out. I spend the rest of the time holding it together because I feel if I fall apart around everyone then they will fall apart and we will be one big broken mess. They are trying to be supportive I know. But I spend a lot of energy telling them it is going to be ok. I am gonna beat this. Keep up smiles and plans for kids to not scare them. I have been on wellbutrin for years even before my first diagnosis 5 yrs ago. It helps a lot. I am also on Lorazapam, which is a big help. I don't take it probably as much as I need, don't like poppin pills, but i take it when it is necessary. Sweetie, dealing with cancer is a big deal and can overwhelm. Therapy, medication, yoga, ice cream, etc are the ways we deal with it. It isn't wrong to ask for help, it is sad to NOT ask for help. Talk to your docs and your center, they deal with this everyday and can help guide you some. Good luck and your in my prayers.

      over 4 years ago
    • Alainest's Avatar
      Alainest

      I am very depressed, I was before being diagnosis with Stage IV breast cancer so it has been a struggle to stay positive and balanced throughout the pain of chemotherapy. I joined church, quit going after the real side effects hit me from treatments, joined a support group which fell on the week after chemo which I was in so much pain and depression didn't go to more then a few...it is hard to find your way out of depression. It is like a heavy weight on your body and it pulls you back in bed, on the couch, or in that chair that seems to be so comfortable but killing you softly. I understand. I have been told I will never stop getting chemotherapy!!! Yeah that was a happy day for me "NOT", but today I am able to manage better then the first few months of tears and fears. I can not waste to much time crying anymore, I need to find out how to live happy, joyous and free.

      over 4 years ago

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