• emotional rollercoaster

    Asked by virginisland11 on Thursday, March 7, 2013

    emotional rollercoaster

    I finished chemo back in August of 2011. I notice everytime the month of marh comes around I get really sad and I find myself not wanting to be round people. I have crying spells and then feel lost and confused. Has anyone experienced anything like this? I sometimes feel crazy and alone.

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    • nancyjac's Avatar

      I assume this is do to some association to something that happened in the month of March? Cancer Diagnosis? Whatever the trigger is, you can change that. What else happens in March? First signs of Spring. Easter, maybe a friend of family members birthday or anniversary? You can even manufacture a new and positive association for that month that is related to cancer. For instance, if you completed chemo in August, maybe the following March was when you finally started to feel less fatigue, or maybe you hair finally grew back in. You made the originally association that is making you sad, you can change it to something else.

      over 7 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      You are NOT CRAZY....CANCER IS CRAZY. However you feel is normal.

      Pick one day in March, put it on the calender and grieve. Pull down the shades ligt a few candles, pray, yell, scream, and cry. Do what you need to grieve your former life "before" the cancer. Then your done until next March. But the deal is just one day. Not the month or the year..Just the day.. Let it go and let it out. But just the one day. If it comes to mind anyother time say to your self that you will wait until the day to deal with it.

      over 7 years ago
    • SandiD's Avatar

      I am so sorry this time if year is hard for you. Perhaps it just triggers scary thoughts? I do the opposite, I celebrate my life! But we are all different. You are not crazy, you are just reliving a frightening time. Try hard to refocus and stay in the PRESENT moment. This is not that scary time, this is now and you are a Survivor. When I feel this way I quiet myself and start counting all my blessings, no matter how small they might be. Maybe a quiet restful day is just what you need, but please do not be afraid to speak to a doctor about this if you feel stuck in this mood. You have been through a lot and sometimes we need help sorting through our emotions. There is no shame in asking for help. I am glad you reached out here. I wish you the best and hope you feel more positive and happy soon.

      over 7 years ago
    • karen1956's Avatar

      Were you Dx in March? I know I struggle emotionally around the time of mammo that lead up to Dx...once I get to date of Dx, I'm okay....I just marked 7 years since Dx....

      over 7 years ago
    • JennyMiller's Avatar

      In our effort to be strong and positive, I feel that we keep so much inside of us -- fear, anger, sadness, etc. We can only hold so much emotion inside. We need to vent -- to cry -- to let it all out -- to empty ourselves and re-energize. I have always maintained that you are "alone" in the world of cancer -- your family and friends are around you giving love and support but you are the one that has cancer -- not them. So, you are also "alone" in these confusing emotions -- However, once you let out these emotions, you seem to return to the world where your family and friends are. You may never be the same person you were before cancer but that is not bad because you now have a better appreciation of life. So - my advice is to go with the mood -- cry it out -- get it out of your system and leave it behind you and move forward to a happy Spring. I wish you the best.

      over 7 years ago
    • Yallpaint's Avatar

      It is okay to acknowledge the sad/overwhelmed/angry feelings you have, but don't let them control your life. There are so many that it takes time to get them all out. Take an hour, afternoon, or day to experience the feelings. It's the only way to move beyond them. (I go to the beach and throw rocks and it's very therapeutic) When that is done, focus on what IS instead of what might have been or what was. You did this very hard thing and came out on top. Look it in the eye and tell it NO! Your life is yours again and don't let it steal another minute.

      over 7 years ago
    • Valentinegirl's Avatar

      If you were dx'd in March, and that is what is causing this, I understand how you feel. I am coming up to the tear anniversary of my dx, and I feel rather emotional. I fear that March will always have this association for me, and it very well may. It is so important to acknowledge and honor your feelings. As the month passes, you may feel less emotional and more yourself. Either way, you may want to seek support from a therapist - these emotions may be related to cancer, but there may be other issues surfacing. Asking for help is so important in the healing process, and is a real sign of strength.

      over 7 years ago

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