• Fall and broke arm where cancer spread

    Asked by PaulasMom on Wednesday, May 8, 2013

    Fall and broke arm where cancer spread

    Hi, I need your help again, My mom was told she had non-small cell, lung cancer in July 3,2012. She was living at home with help, it came very apparent that she needed 24 hour care, with medical help. She moved into an assisted living place, was doing great, being very active joining clubs. Something she never did, then on March 28th at 12:30am, I got a call my mom fell out of her bed and they sent her to the hospital. I live 2 hours away. I worked on Sunday then spent the next week with my mom at the hospital. They discharged her to a rehab nursing home. They aren't helping her at all. She is at Arbors In Michigan City IND. WE NEED TO MOVE HER OR SHE WILL DIE THERE. They don't know what to do with her, we need to find a GOOD place in that area that also has hospice. HELP. My son mom's oldest grandson graduates from college Friday. I'm depressed and happy just walk around crying. Thanks for listening

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    • SueRae1's Avatar

      Hugs. Yikes - unfortunately there are too many rehab homes like the one you are describing. Speak with your mom's oncology team and/or a social worker at the hospital where she is being treated and ask them for a recommendation for a facility that has the staff and expertise to work with and help your mother. With any luck you may find one that is affiliated( with a great hospice center, but you may also need to get a recommendation of a hospice facility as well, so that if and when the time comes, you have everything in place to move her.

      I know how depressing this most be, i still remember dealing with both my parents final illnesses
      Both of them where in rehab centers that were not responsive to there needs (my mom had Alzheimer's and my Dad congestive heart failure and was recuperating from a broken hip as well). my sister's and I spent a lot of time trying to get them better care.

      My DD graduated from college last May - try to focus on that joyous event, and congratulate yourself for doing a job well done as a parent. After the ceremony (or the next day) why not have your son put on his cap and gown and visit your mom so he can see him in all his splendor. Take lots of pictures for her to see, and if she's up to it, and they allow it, try to stream the event via cell phone.

      over 3 years ago
    • SueRae1's Avatar

      one quick question - is the graduation near by - if so ask her medical team if they think she would be up to going - it will only take a few hours, and someone can drive her back early if need be.

      over 3 years ago
    • CAS1's Avatar

      Can you get her to the University of Chicago? This is just two hours away. There are numerous treatments that can be done to prolong her life. Dr. Ravi Salgia. One of the best experts in Lung Cancer in the world.
      You are right..If you don't get her to Lung Cancer experts she will die Once a treatment plan is developed it can be given at another hospital.

      over 3 years ago
    • PaulasMom's Avatar

      The UIC is where mom is being treated, by Dr. Hensing. Mom is doing better since I wrote that on
      Wednesday. She is getting physical therapy and getting her pain managed. That's all we can hope. Thanks for everyone time.

      over 3 years ago

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