• Feeling uncertain...

    Asked by judyinflorida on Monday, September 28, 2015

    Feeling uncertain...

    I just got the results from my latest CT scan and they weren't good. The tumor is growing and the hormone blocker isn't working. The only option seems to be a different kind of chemo, but we're just grasping at straws now...buying time. We have a big vacation planned on Oct 26th and it will be for 3 weeks. Flying to Scotland and England and then a transatlantic cruise back to the US. Even though I have trip insurance I'm determined to go. In my mind the chemo can wait until I get back. I'm meeting with the Dr on Thurs to see what he says, but I just don't know if I'm thinking the right way. I've always known it's just a matter of time, but in the meantime, I'd like to have fun. Does that sound irresponsible?

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    23 answers
    • Lynne-I-Am's Avatar
      Lynne-I-Am

      NOT AT ALL!!!!! I am not in the same circumstances as you since at present I am in remission, but because recurrence is 70% for me I have thought about this very same senerio a lot. Next year my husband and I will celebrate our fiftieth wedding anniversary by going to Hawaii. Nothing is going to stop this trip. Next May, I am taking my only grandchild to Disneyland. When putting my deposit down for that trip thought about the trip insurance, will I be healthy? Decided against it. I WILL MAKE THAT TRIP!!! Put on your boxing gloves on your return and check out the numerous clinical trials available. Your trip sounds wonderful, soak it all in.

      over 5 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      I am nearly certain I would make the same decision. Go make memories and have a blast!! Three weeks isn't going to make or break anything, I do not think. But it can do a world of good for your psyche.

      I am very sorry for the news, though. Big, big hugs.

      over 5 years ago
    • geekling's Avatar
      geekling

      You NEED to have life enjoyment, to participate in all things which make life worthwhile. Have a wonderful trip.

      Might I please suggest to you that you buy an oil called "nigella sativa"? Make sure that what you buy is from Egypt or Lebanon or Turkey but NOT India or China (where they grow a different genus of the plant). The oil is from a type of cumin generally called "black seed oil" or "habet el baraka" or "chernushka".

      There are over 60 PUBMED studies touting the oil's abilities. Russians and Jews used to decorate bread with the seed.

      http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3642442/

      https://www.mskcc.org/cancer-care/integrative-medicine/herbs/nigella-sativa

      Under the reference section of the link above you will find many studies regarding its multiple uses like shrinking tumors, alleviating allergies, reducing gout, keeping a liver functioning and so on and so forth.

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nigella_sativa

      Folks can poo pooh it all they want. Nestles tried to patent it and was stopped by world wide protests. The seed has been in use all around the Eastern world for millennia. It will not prevent death but it can delay it and make you stronger. When you start chemotherapy, stop using the oil.

      It tastes kinda icky so many folks take it with honey. You need a tablespoon (no more) per day in either 3 divided doses or at once. You can eat as much of the seed as you like, but the oil is potent so no more than 3 teaspoons per day please. The seed tastes good as a spice with carrot.

      Hugs for you and bon voyage.

      over 5 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      As long as you feel ok I'd GO GO GO and wish I could go....I can't afford to go to the store....lol
      Have a great time and play Make Believe......Pretend that you don't have cancer and enjoy yourself....maybe the trip will cure the XXX disease.....B

      over 5 years ago
    • bigjan1's Avatar
      bigjan1

      I had a two month delay from diagnosis until I could get in to see my oncologist. We took a month off and traveled, had a great time and tried to push it all out of my mind. Then when we got back, I marched into his office and said, "OK, let's get on with it". That was a few years ago, I'm still doing great, with some follow up treatments. Go have fun, with your doctor's blessings.

      over 5 years ago
    • judyinflorida's Avatar
      judyinflorida

      Thanks everybody! I'll let you know what the Dr says. I LOVE what barryboomer said..., "Pretend that you don't have cancer and enjoy yourself"

      over 5 years ago
    • barryboomer's Avatar
      barryboomer

      I heard a rumor that laughing till you cry and having a real good time is a Secret Cure for Cancer. Never KNOW. The only way I know that I have cancer is because of a lousy biopsy.....other than that I wouldn't know it. Wish I never had the XXX biopsy...lol.....Once I heard the stinking words you have NHL my mind became polluted also.....

      over 5 years ago
    • Ejourneys' Avatar
      Ejourneys

      (((Big Hugs))) and Carpe Diem!

      over 5 years ago
    • gonewest's Avatar
      gonewest

      Wow, Judy! Your trip sounds fantastic. I echo all others responding here - go Go GO!

      over 5 years ago
    • Lorie's Avatar
      Lorie

      Hope Dr says yes and Even if he does not Or hesitates and says its up to you, Iwould still go also. The institutions and doctors often make us wait longer than that

      over 5 years ago
    • Carool's Avatar
      Carool

      I'll chime in with "Go and enjoy!" And, as Barry says, laugh until you cry and then laugh some more! Hugs from a very-non-traveling (these days) Carool

      over 5 years ago
    • Maddy61's Avatar
      Maddy61

      Judy - Go on your trip. And when you say things like "it's just a matter of time" that's not helpful. I'm not suggesting you put on a pair of rose colored glasses; I'm just saying do everything you can do and have as much fun as you can.

      over 5 years ago
    • LiveWithCancer's Avatar
      LiveWithCancer

      Judy, when you do start treatment, ask if you are eligible for immunotherapy. I read today that they are seeing success with Opdivo in treating some uterine cancers. I have had excellent results from it for my lung cancer.

      over 5 years ago
    • Janetspringer's Avatar
      Janetspringer

      Judy, go on that trip and have a blast. Praying for you.

      over 5 years ago
    • Traceypap's Avatar
      Traceypap

      Absolutely go your trip. Have a wonderful time.

      over 5 years ago
    • cam32505's Avatar
      cam32505

      Ok, I have a different perspective. I work with a person who has been stage IV cancer for over 10 years. She lived her life like anyone else, except for frequent visits to the hospital/doctors. This past spring, she told me she had an all-inclusive family trip planned for the Carribbean. I asked her if she couldn't just go to Florida, or somewhere in the US. She said she had trip insurance, only on her ticket (expecting her family would go without her). Well, needless to say, her tumor started generating insulin and put her into a diabetic coma and she was rushed to the hospital. The trip was lost, and she's at home more than 2 months after this episode. So, I think you need to enjoy life, but stay close to your medical team, or at least within the same country. Cancer can stay stable, then get crazy real fast. Best of luck to you.

      over 5 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar
      BuckeyeShelby

      Live your life, not your cancer! I'm sorry you've gotten bad news, but I'm so glad you have something to look forward to. I hope you have a wonderful time. I work in the medical insurance field -- while most of our policies don't pay foreign providers directly, almost all of them allow for reimbursement of expenses should you need something while you are out of the country. If you need the piece of mind, call your carrier and find out what it would entail. Then forget about the cancer stuff and have FUN!

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Judy Take the trip just be sure to check out all the medical facilities along the way so if anything occurs you can get emergency care. My son was studying in the UK six years ago and he said that emergency care there is excellent (extended care not so much) also I believe that most cruise ships do have emergency services.

      over 5 years ago
    • BoiseB's Avatar
      BoiseB

      Prayers for a safe trip.

      over 5 years ago
    • Lillyzz's Avatar
      Lillyzz

      Absolutely not! This sounds like the trip of a life time? I hope you have a wonderful time!

      over 5 years ago
    • Gardener's Avatar
      Gardener

      I am sorry for rotten news but just take that trip.
      No regrets

      over 5 years ago
    • sewandsew's Avatar
      sewandsew

      I have stage 3c endometrial cancer that has returned after 5 years. My chemo Doctor pressured me to start chemo the first of June- one of the enlarged lymph nodes that is cancer could cause a stroke he said. I had a family event planned and wanted to start 5 weeks later. I happened to be seeing my gyn oncology doctor the next week and asked him. He said it would make no difference in my long term results if I waited 5 weeks. With return cancer they really do not know about it as much and as you see, you get different answers from different doctors. I waited and started chemo the 2nd week of August. It is working for now. I have now been told 5 times that this is temporary and that my cancer will always be there and there will come a time when the chemo will not work. I wonder why they think I did not "get this" the first time I was told.

      over 5 years ago
    • Gumpus61's Avatar
      Gumpus61

      Don't let fear put an anchor in your XXX.......the chemo either works or it doesn't.....GO man GO !!!

      over 5 years ago

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