• First expectations

    Asked by Lucila on Tuesday, November 13, 2012

    First expectations

    I just would like to know a little on what to expect when quimo and radiation start for my husband.. Do I need to stop working? I need to be around all the time? what are the first effects on both, the doc said he will have both everyday;;; How do I keep him going , and not depressed??????

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    • ticklingcancer's Avatar

      Everyone reacts differently to chemo and radiation. Personally, I received 12 weeks of chemo. I would get chemo for 5 days and then get two weeks off to recover. The worst part for me was the nausea and "flu like symptoms times 10". I required very little help as I tried my best to sleep through most of it. If he does experience any of the nausea, he will be given some very good medication to help control it. I highly recommend Zofran. Speak with his Oncologist and together you guys can decide if this medication is a good option for him. I don't think there is much that can be done about the "flu" like symptoms but I was able to manage and I'm sure he will as well. As far as you taking off work, it will really depend on how he reacts to the treatment. Someone who has or is receiving treatment for colon cancer will chime in very soon with their experiences to give you an idea about what your husband may or may not experience. Again, it all depends on how his body reacts. Regarding the depression, You mentioned on your wall that his Dr feels they can cure this. Stay Positive. Attitude is everything. Encourage him to maintain a positive attitude. Hopefully depression will not be an issue but if it is, his Oncologist can give medication for that as well. He does in fact have a tough fight ahead of him but it will be worth it in the end.

      almost 4 years ago
    • packerbacker's Avatar

      First off, know that you are fighting and doing the right thing and not giving up! That's great! When I was first diagnosed with a tumor on my tongue last year, I got both chemo and radiation for 7 weeks, 5 days a week. I got nauseated and very tired. Everyone reacts differently, and it depends on what medications he will be getting and where the radiation will be. On this site, people getting the treatment have said they have been able to continue to work full time. I needed to take the time off. My husband continued to work full time and still does today. Every case is so different, it's difficult to say how things will go. We get sad sometimes and share some hugs and tears, and then we feel good knowing that we are doing everything we can to fight this horrific disease! I wish you both the best of luck! You can do this! Many hugs your way!

      almost 4 years ago
    • BuckeyeShelby's Avatar

      So far, I'm one of the ones Packerbacker was talking about. I'm halfway through my 6 chemo treatments, and so far, I've missed one day of work besides the days I get the chemo itself. I was off a day from my usual session because my doc was out of the office, making my bad day a Friday instead of a Saturday, and I was on enough pain meds I didn't feel safe to drive. My worst side effect is leg & foot pain. Very little nausea for me, but I'm also taking Zofran. I hope your guy suffers few side effects. And one thing to keep in mind, I doubt anyone gets every single side effect from any specific med. And there are some good meds out there to help make them bearable. Best of luck to you and your husband.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Peroll's Avatar

      As noted by others everyone is different butr your husband is realatively young so hopfully he will not have too many bad days. Be sure to get perscriptions for at least 2 or 3 anti-nausea meds as each person finds different ones effective (Zofran does noting for me but Ativan and Compazine work for me) then experiement to see what helps.

      Radiation treatment will only take about 10 to 15 minutes a day but chemo is longer as they will check the blood first every day then he gets his bags of joy juice. Make sure he has things to do during chemo, luke books a laptop or tablet or a DVD pr MP3 player. I have worked through and even at chemo (I have very understanding bosses) but my chemo was once a week.

      My wife will tell you that you need to not only take care of your husband but remember to take care of yourself too. This may mean taking some time off from work, going with him for the first day would be good. You can then decide how much help he will need.

      Good luck to both of you and know that you can and will win your battle!!!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Jayne's Avatar

      Hi, Lucila. It will be an adjustment for sure, just getting used to the craziness after diagnosis is exhausting! But soon things will settle into a "normal" routine. I don' know what you do for a living but having some support during the radiation and chemo is very helpful. But we all might not have that option so if you can't take the time off for his whole regiment, think about reserving your time for the latter part of his treatment. For me, they did radiation first, then chemo, then surgery. I was ok for the first 5 weeks of the radiation but the last two were really exhausing, and I needed someone to drive me there and back. My first regiment of chemo was 5FU in a pump I wore 24x7 for 6 weeks. I went in once a week for a "refill" and wore the pump while I worked and carried on my life. Again, as the weeks wore on, so did I. So there is no good answer because it all depends on your situation, your husband's ability to cope with this and your ability to take time off to be wth him during all of this. If you are forced to pick, try to plan on being more available towards the end of his regiments. Also, if he is prone to depression there are always anti-depressants to help him through this period. Don't be afraid to ask questions of your doctors, they can help set your expectations. And don't forget to take care of YOU too!

      almost 4 years ago
    • Carol-Charlie's Avatar

      I received almost two years of just chemo. With the meds available now, no reason to feel nausea. My taste buds refused to work for a month or two, but came back. My fingers and feet went numb, and seven years later still are. The oncologist should be telling you what to expect, Please keep in mind. 'SEVEN YEARS LATER" I'm still cancer free. Hold that thought. Hold on to God's outstreched hand, He'll pull him or carry him to where He wants your husband to be. Take one day at a time, and do what you need to do. If he's exhausted... simply let him sleep. I slept and slept. But when we'd completed all the treatment the oncologist asked me too. My husband and I came through the storm together. We're again doing what we love.. last summer we spent more and more time out fishing... fishing and talking. And did you know if you kiss each other after each fish is caught .... you get to your limit faster. However. I still don't clean fish. :)

      almost 4 years ago
    • cmcelroy's Avatar

      My husband was diagnosed in August, had his surgery in September and is halfway thru his treatment. He has done pretty well with his treatments. He does get tired easily. He hasn't had much sickness but he also takes the nausea medicine. For 5 days after his IV treatment he can't drink anything cold, has to be a room temperture but that does subside. Other than that, it's been just the getting tired easily. I have noticed that he is more forgetful than usual.

      almost 4 years ago
    • Lucila's Avatar

      Thank you all; your words are very helpful!!!

      almost 4 years ago
    • abrub's Avatar

      Everybody reacts differently. I was able to work during chemo (FolFox). I have a friend who went through the 6 weeks of continuous colorectal chemo (5FU), and still got out and did things.

      See how it goes. Your husband may be fine to take care of basic needs while you work and take care of yourself. I didn't need my husband around constantly during chemo. But I was very glad to have him there to tend to the day to day running of the house (and cooking and cleaning.) I could take care of myself, and some other stuff. And there were times I was glad to be alone in the house, being miserable by myself! (I also encouraged my husband to keep active and keep living his life.)

      almost 4 years ago

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