• For those who were told that their cancer wouldn't be that tough beause it's one of the "easy" cancers.

    Asked by CancerNews on Sunday, December 8, 2019

    For those who were told that their cancer wouldn't be that tough beause it's one of the "easy" cancers.

    Gotta vent here for a second.
    Does anyone here sometimes get a deep jealousy/almost hatred for those who did ABVD for like 6 months then went into remission? I think it stems from how my original oncologist told me how this was the “easy” cancer. From the day of diagnosis I got it into my brain that I was gonna battle this quick and be on with my life. That it was gonna be just a blip on the radar. I’m now stage 4, a dozen treatments later, and the last two years have been so XXX difficult for me and sometimes I just wanna turn my ears off when I hear about those who had it the “easier” way with cancer. I feel I have no empathy when those types talk about how difficult those 6ish months were and I feel like such a terrible person! I’m typically very much an empath but I’m seeing that those who have the blessing to go through any cancer so quickly just get on my nerves!

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    • Dawsonsmom's Avatar
      Dawsonsmom

      I think this may be common for people who were told initially that their cancer treatment would be “easier” & then get Mets and are now stage 4. My brother has had a similar experience and while he never speaks to it aloud, it feels to me like he may be having some of these same feelings. I don’t talk w him about my own cancer much b/c of this. Thus far I am NED but it’s early, so anything can happen with this sneaky villain. I feel guilty about having any fears when he is suffering so much and is so scared. I am so sorry for all you are going through physically & emotionally.

      about 1 month ago
    • GregP_WN's Avatar
      GregP_WN

      My first oncologist when I had Hodgkins the first time made the mistake of telling me this. Then I had a few issues that almost took me down. After that, I kept saying, "oh, it's going to be EASY, right?"

      about 1 month ago
    • Kp2018's Avatar
      Kp2018

      Anyone who asserts that a cancer, no matter what kind, is "easy," is abysmally ignorant about the nature of cancer. The more you learn about this disease, the more you appreciate its complexity and insidiousness. And as for cancer treatment being "easy," I suggest that whoever thinks this gives it a try.

      about 1 month ago
    • Bengal's Avatar
      Bengal

      I think maybe there's a tendency on the part of some doctors to try to minimize things at first to perhaps lessen the shock factor of your diagnosis. I was told exactly that. That I had a " good" kind of cancer meaning, I guess that it was "easily" treatable. I was also told in the beginning that it was tiny to the point of being "insignificant" and a "minor" surgery and maybe a short regimen of radiation would take care of it. When I saw my oncologist after the lumpectomy almost the first word out of her mouth was CHEMO! Talk about shock factor. The next thing I was doing was planning a year long course of treatment. Explanation, "sometimes we get it wrong.". I would have preferred they had waited until they had the labs after the lumpectomy and told me the truth instead of leading me on that it would be "simple" before they had all the information to back that up. And, yes, some cancers are hugely more difficult than others but there are no "easy" cancers and anyone who thinks otherwise is an idiot. So sorry for anyone who has to go through this at any level.

      about 1 month ago

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