• Friend with Pancreatic cancer stage 4 is talking about stopping his chemo, What can I say to him to get him to keep goin

    Asked by toml on Wednesday, December 14, 2011

    Friend with Pancreatic cancer stage 4 is talking about stopping his chemo, What can I say to him to get him to keep goin

    He is 47, and says that it is really a rough chemo process.

    6 Answers from the Community

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    • susie81610's Avatar
      susie81610

      I feel you should support your friend in what ever decision he makes. We will all come to a point and a time when there are tough decisions that we have to make. Is the chemo really worth all of the sickness? Stop chemo and enjoy what ever time who knows that he has left not being sick from chemo? Pancreatic cancer is a very painful cancer I watched my mother die from it 2yrs ago today! She never had any treatment for it because she was terminal with another disease. But that is what ended up taking her.
      So please just be there for him and support him in anyway you can its his decision.
      God Bless

      about 5 years ago
    • RuthAnne's Avatar
      RuthAnne

      I tend to agree with Susie81610. As a 45 year old with stage 4 lung cancer, I've wondered if there might come a time when I decide that enough is enough when it comes to treatment. However, something your friend may not have considered is either taking a break from chemo altogether, or taking a break from one/some of the medicines in his chemo cocktail that might be particularly harsh. You might suggest that he talk to his oncologist about taking this sort of hiatus if for no other reason than to gain a little psychological fortitude. Ultimately, the decision is his and support for whatever he decides is very important. Be strong.

      about 5 years ago
    • lovingspouse's Avatar
      lovingspouse

      LISTEN, TELL HIM WHAT WAS ANNOUNCED TODAY THAT A T-CELL THERAPY THAT SHRINKS TUMORS IN 90% OF PANCREATIC AND BREAST CANCER HAS JUST BEEN ANNOUNCED TODAY IN BRITAIN AND WILL BE IN CLINICAL TESTING AS EARLY AS THE END OF 2012. SEARCH T-CELL CURE BREAST CANCER U.K. AND YOU OR HE CAN FIND OUT ABOUT. HE NEEDS TO HANG IN THERE. MY WIFE IS STAGE IV BREAST CANCER AND THIS IS WHAT SHE NEEDS TO DO TOO!

      about 5 years ago
    • mspinkladybug's Avatar
      mspinkladybug

      you should say I support you in what you do! you are NOT the one loving with the side effects of treatment your friend is you just need to support him . and be there for him.

      about 5 years ago
    • shauna0915's Avatar
      shauna0915

      My opinion is that you should support your friend in whatever decision he should make. He is the only one that knows what he can tolerate. I would recommend he discuss other treatment options with his oncologist, but ultimately it has to be his decision. Sometimes it becomes more about the quality of life than the quantity. It's hard to hear and sometimes hard to accept, but after watching what my dad went through with Stage 4 lung cancer that had spread to his brain, I truly believe in making the best out of whatever time is left rather than watch them suffer from the drugs that can often do more harm than good. I wish you and your friend both the very best.

      about 5 years ago
    • toml's Avatar
      toml

      thanks all for the support. lovingspouse, the info you gave me on the stuff in GB is great. I told him about it and he is now in England talking to a doctor over there. Thanks so much.

      about 5 years ago

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